MISSING OUT ON THE JOYS OF LIFE

 
I find myself looking at others, or their photos o facebook andthen back at mine and feeling so inferior. I shouldn't even entertain the thoughts or facebook for that matter, but today I did. Now I feel even more sad and worthless.  
 
I know that the devil to get my mind off of the blessings that I already have and focus on what I don't have and how others are just prospering. On that note, the people that seem to prosper the most, have done some messed up stuff. Yet they seem to have freinds, family, good finances, new homes, cars etc. Have I done something far and above that which they have done. Could that be why I am stuck, depressed and broke?
 
I wish I drank, then I wouldn't have to worry about all this! LOL!

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HOPE1955
HOPE1955

Good morning GF! I too am on facebook but never have anything to post. It makes me more aware of what I am missing that other\'s have - like a life! I think it also makes me aware that there are people out there that I know, even though I don\'t hear from them.. It is both depressing and helpful for me. It keeps me aware there is more out there than what I am experiencing. I have to find a way to get some of it, just haven\'t figured out how yet. I think it is those baby steps we keep talking about.

I agree we need to be aware of our blessings, and be thankful for what we do have, but at times it doesn\'t seem possible. I have to fight the embarrassment that a lot of my problems could have been avoided if I would have taken action earlier to fight this depression demon. I have fought it before, but have given up for at least the last 3 years.

It can be hard when we compare ourselves to others. They seem to have it all and the good things appear to keep going their way and some of them are just horrible people. I think sometimes though, appearances can be deceiving and even though we think we would like to change places with them, we might be surprised that even with our all too encompassing disease, money problems and loneliness, trying to live right, with compassion for others, as hard as it is to get by, in the long run we may be better off. I have been happy at times, even though I have not been able to pay bills and live in a tiny, not so nice house. I know I have compassion. That is the only good thing I have and I am thankful for that gift. You have it too. You have shared that gift with me and continue to, when things are so bleak.

This time of year is the time we tell ourselves we should be happy and celebrating with family and friends. Well, sometimes you don\'t have the ability to do that and being alone sucks. You have the added problem of needing to be there for your son. I know that has to be so difficult. I think though, that he may understand and want nothing more than knowing how much he helps you with his love for you. I have absolutely no right talking about that since I have no kids. I was however, raised by a divorced mother who went through hell. She dealt with her problems better than I do, she was very strong, As we grew older, we were more aware of the problems she tried to shield us from. We knew she had no money. We didn\'t expect much. It made us all happy when we knew we helped her get by.

Remember when you posted about what Christmas really is? The celebration of Christ and faith. Try to hold onto that and try to get yourself out the door to participate in whatever activities your Church or community has to offer.

You know I am fighting the battle too, and I am talking big. I think we have to keep in mind at all times WE MUST TAKE AT LEAST A BABY STEP. Whatever that may be. For me today it will be going to the grocery store and hoping that whatever I come home with will fit in the fridge and freezer! Mine are full of things that need to be thrown out but I don\'t have the energy and God help me if I have to find it! LOL. That will lead to having to empty things from dishes and throwing them way which will cause more dirty dishes to pile up that I can\'t do, AND the trash will definitely have to go out which means I will be stuck outside again trying to catch my breath on my porch before I can come back in and hit the recliner! Maybe I should change my baby step about going to the store!

Okay, you know I am here and if there is anything I can do for you, let me know. We can talk our way to laughter somehow, we did it before, and gain at least a few minutes of relief from this ugly place we go to.

Love you and am thinking of you!
MaryTurk
MaryTurk

You must understand that these are thoughts that we all have. \"I could have that.\" But, are you sure \"that\" is what you want?

Think about what God had to say about it;

Matthew 6:15-17

King James Version (KJV)


15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
16 Verily I say unto you, They have their reward

The main thing Jesus was trying to get across is that the people who look for praise on earth will get their praise here on earth. We, Christians, who stay true to God no matter what happens, will be rewarded in heaven.

I know this ,may not be comforting right now. I understand how others LOOK on the outside. But, inside, where it really counts, these people are not as happy as they seem.

You are truly blessed because you are alive. These people may not be truly alive.

Sad thought, isn\'t it.
jaime123
jaime123

Oh my gosh I have the same thoughts.....about those who do messed up things seeming to be the ones who prosper the most. Why is that? Aren\'t we supposed to be rewarded for being good people? Sometimes I question things that I shouldn\'t, but why does it seem like if you are an evil ruthless human being and you stomp on every person in your way, you will get everything you want.
Lapsmom10
Lapsmom10

It\'s just that way. Maybe their rewards are here on earth and ours in heaven. I sometimes become so upset by it that I just make myself even more upset. But I have had to put a stop to that facebook stuff. I wouldn\'t even go there with all that today.
jaime123
jaime123

Sometimes I think I should just become one of those mean people. Maybe I wouldn\'t get hurt so much if I did the hurting instead. I hate FB.
Lapsmom10
Lapsmom10

Nope. If that\'s not your true personality, you will only feel terrible. And yes facebook sucks.