Men SUCK
I feel really sad right now. This dude I used to work with when I was a lot thinner got in touch with me. And btw- A LOT thinner. Anyway- he texted me and said I still look good, etc. And Of course I responded with- "even with the weight?" He said yes, that he didn't even notice the weight. Um- BULLSHIT! But it was obviously said to make me feel good so I just thanked him for saying it.
He stopped by my office the other day. He was very stand offish and even though I sat on the couch he sat on the chair. Odd- after him telling me how good I looked via text. But whatever. So then he leaves and I'm thinking "okay well that was what it was." No chemistry, no intimacy. But he texts me all these compliments afterwards- why???? He did the same thing today. Gets here and I feel NOTHING. Why man??? He sits across the room from me. Then I ask him to sit on the couch with me b/c I had to tell him something and he sits on the other end of the couch. Mind you- he was talking shit about giving me a massage, etc. via text. WHAT THE FUCK????
I just hope he doesn't text me. If you're gonna act uninterested then bounce. I don't know if he actually felt interest- I'm gonna say he didn't b/c of the way he acted BUT the same thing happened this Friday and an hour later he's texting me all this shit. God I loathe inconsistency. I just fucking loathe it.
It makes me question myself. The second someone acts inconsistent to me it's like in my head I am what made them act bad. Like for instance- when dealing with inconsistency- someone can be hot/cold. For me- if at any point they act hot then when the cold comes I just assume its my fault. Like it must have been something I said or my weight- that's a big one- I ALWAYS blame it on my weight.
Then when he's leaving he said the word "prerequisite" and he commented on the fact that once and a while he says big words, he doesn't even know what they mean- he just uses them. I'm in a profession where thinking is what I do- he knows that. I feel like that statement about "prerequisite" was him telling me that he does not find what I do attractive. I hate men that make me feel bad for being smart. Fuck that shit man. Being intelligent is not a fucking character flaw. I was feeling so good today and I was looking forward to seeing him. Then he comes over and acts all cold. Now I just want to take a fucking nap. And Douche is coming in tonight- so I should just go. I know he'll be able to smell the weakness on me. He always can.
He stopped by my office the other day. He was very stand offish and even though I sat on the couch he sat on the chair. Odd- after him telling me how good I looked via text. But whatever. So then he leaves and I'm thinking "okay well that was what it was." No chemistry, no intimacy. But he texts me all these compliments afterwards- why???? He did the same thing today. Gets here and I feel NOTHING. Why man??? He sits across the room from me. Then I ask him to sit on the couch with me b/c I had to tell him something and he sits on the other end of the couch. Mind you- he was talking shit about giving me a massage, etc. via text. WHAT THE FUCK????
I just hope he doesn't text me. If you're gonna act uninterested then bounce. I don't know if he actually felt interest- I'm gonna say he didn't b/c of the way he acted BUT the same thing happened this Friday and an hour later he's texting me all this shit. God I loathe inconsistency. I just fucking loathe it.
It makes me question myself. The second someone acts inconsistent to me it's like in my head I am what made them act bad. Like for instance- when dealing with inconsistency- someone can be hot/cold. For me- if at any point they act hot then when the cold comes I just assume its my fault. Like it must have been something I said or my weight- that's a big one- I ALWAYS blame it on my weight.
Then when he's leaving he said the word "prerequisite" and he commented on the fact that once and a while he says big words, he doesn't even know what they mean- he just uses them. I'm in a profession where thinking is what I do- he knows that. I feel like that statement about "prerequisite" was him telling me that he does not find what I do attractive. I hate men that make me feel bad for being smart. Fuck that shit man. Being intelligent is not a fucking character flaw. I was feeling so good today and I was looking forward to seeing him. Then he comes over and acts all cold. Now I just want to take a fucking nap. And Douche is coming in tonight- so I should just go. I know he'll be able to smell the weakness on me. He always can.
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Good for you for seeing through this guy. I\'d be very weary of what he\'s up too because of that inconsistency you talked about. Here\'s what I know for sure, and constantly remind myself: When I\'m confused, or something isn\'t making sense, someone, somewhere is lying. I pay attention to my reactions now - because they\'re going to be the only things that keep me away from psychos.
When the behavior doesn\'t match the words - I would take that as a big red flag!
Thanks for commenting. You\'re right. I just started trying to date after the situation with douche. I didn\'t plan on it but he kind of found me. And its so nice to get the attention which makes it SO HARD to not fall back into old patterns of doing everything I possibly can to make it easier for guy to want me. I have no idea how to act in relationships. A healthy relationship is like a unicorn for me. I spend so much time doing without men b/c my taste in men can\'t be trusted. I don\'t want to be alone but I have no idea how to be in a healthy relationship. I think I should learn to trust my instinct. Thanks for the advice.
how confusing, sounds like he has issues