Me and Moms conversation
Mom: So what’s up with this boy you like?
Me: Well, I gave him the letter last Wednesday. He emailed me and he said I love you. He made these videos of us called CapCut edits and he made one that said it said...1 Earth... 7 Seas... 7 Continents... 196 Countries... 8 billion people... and I was lucky enough to meet you.At the end of it there was pictures of us.I told him that we are both lucky and he said "Amen to that". Becca and Kaden hate him. Because of something he did in his past. I talked to him about it and he said that he won't do that to me
Mom: Yeah but cuz they say that doesn’t make it true. If what Becca showed me is true… it’s not a good situation for you:( I don’t want you to get hurt so hopefully you figure it out before that happens. Saying I love you already… that’s a red flag to me:(
Me: I really like him and I don't wanna let him go
Mom: But if he’s not a good person… then you shouldn’t like him. Your just gonna get hurt…he is way to young for any of that, he doesn’t even know what love is. He’s just trying to get to you. I have to go to work now… just think about it ok. I don’t want u to get hurt. Your sister and brother are trying to protect you! I love you! Listen to them they are both very smart! You are smart to just still young!
Me : He isn't a bad person. People make mistakes. I know that me and him are young. Teenage years are about learning, having fun, living your life.. Me and him are both learning. I guess I will think about it tho.
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It’s not completely uncommon for I love you to come out fast especially in your younger years but at the same time too didn’t he not like you a 3 or 4 weeks ago? Not too long before valentines. Maybe I misread something back then. But there is nothing wrong with enjoying it but always be weary and think every decision through
He has liked me since last summer. He jut didnt tell anyone for awhile until I admitted my feeling for him and then he told me he liked me too.
I hope he's not playing games with you and his feelings are honest. Your mom made some good points that helped me see this situation with your siblings more clearly now. I agree with her though that at his age he doesn't know what love is yet. Scaredandafraid is right about young people saying I love you quickly. I knew my boyfriend for 3 years before those words came out of our mouths. But he's also 52 and I'm 47. Were not exactly that young but what I mean is sometimes it takes maturity, age and really taking a lot of time to get to know someone before you can say those words to each other and really mean it. Younger people tend to toss them around freely without really knowing and understanding the importance and meaning behind them. I really hope I'm wrong and he truly has feelings for you. I don't want you to get hurt. You're A wonderful young woman who deserves someone who truly loves you.
The fact that Tatum has already said "I love you" doesn't concern me. As the others have stated, those three words are used frequently in teenage relationships, way before either person has discovered what true love really means. I believe he's even younger than you are. What *does* concern me is this thing in his past that you haven't mentioned (at least not publicly). If your sister, brother, and mom are all worried, that tells me it's something pretty big. Please seriously consider what they are saying. Past actions are often a good predictor of future behavior. You're a great girl, and you deserve someone who will always treat you well. Hugs.
Think about what your mom said. She is just looking out for the best for you and your siblings too.
I know how you feel about Tatum. And just take things slow. As time goes by I think you will get to know each other better. Right now it's all new. I hope it all works out for the two of you because you deserve to be happy and have someone in your life that makes you happy. I'm praying it all goes well and you guys do end up together. One day at a time.
Hugs and love to you.
Ok, so what happened that my mom and siblings are worried about...
A couple of years ago he sent a nude to someone. I already talked to him about it. He said that e isn't going to do that.
And...
I have already said this but he made a tiktok account with my first name and a picture of my and then he followed my sister. He did delete the account.
Now I'm understanding with what's going on. I can see your family's concern.
It definitely wasn't a smart thing to do.
People make mistakes all the time. It just makes it hard to trust them when they do. If you talked to him about it and he said he's not gonna do it then you have to be the one to trust him that he won't do it again. Just be careful. Like Judy said, Past actions are often a good predictor of future behavior. I hope he keeps his word and doesn't do it again. Sometimes you have to let the past go. And have a fresh start. I always try to give people a second chance to prove themselves. I hope it truly works out for the best. You deserve happiness in your life. I think we all do. Much love to you.
And also I appreciate you for being so honest about saying what he did. I know it's not easy to talk about. Much love to you. Your an awesome person with a big heart.
Thank you. It is hard. I always give people a second chance. I know that mistakes happen and its a part of life. I do trust him to not do it again.
I went through this as a teenager myself. I met a guy at the mall and I had no idea he was a gang member and an alcoholic. My family tried to warn me when they found out the truth about him and I didn't listen. Thankfully he proved my family wrong and he was so good to me despite his lifestyle and better than I was to him but him being killed ended our relationship. If you stick with Tatum I hope it works out for the both of you. The nude photo thing I can't really comment on. I don't know what lead him to do it or if someone made him do it. I hope it never happens again no matter how it happened in the first place. I hope he learned from it either way. I know you really love him. I believe you do. You are a very caring and kind person. I just hope he doesnt hurt you and he's serious.
That means so much to me. I am scared, he emailed me this morning saying "Good Morning" but he hasn't talked to me since. It has been 6 hours. I don't know if he is ignoring me or if he is jut busy. I am trying to not overthink but I am a teenage girl I can't help it.
He might be busy. Maybe try emailing him again and see if he responds.
He is talking to me... he said this with a LOT of heart emoji's...
"I can't wait to see you tomorrow"
That's great!!!
That's so sweet.
See now you can rest your mind.
And you will see him tomorrow.
I have church too tomorrow.
I'll be praying for the two of you.
Hugs
Thank you.