Maybe things will change
My mother had meetings with someone from here Church that is supposed to help her find assisted living placement for her and my father.
this is nto what my brother wants, he wants to have both of them in their home and he and I continue to watch them. That is all we can do is watch them and alittle more but we don't have the skills or ability to give them the care that they need. My brother doesn't want them to spend any money for their care so that there will be something for him to inherit when they die. I too had hoped and wanted to inherit something as well so that I would be able to not worry about my own retirement. They have rental houses that would provide a stable income to provide for me if I were able to inherit one or two of them. Now it depends on how long they live in assisted living as to if or what I might inherit.
though I would like to inherit something, I would not ask them to not use their own hard earned wealth to live in comfort while they are in their final years. Plus, once they are placed I no longer have to go and stay and watch my dad anymore and so can get out of that anxiety filled situation. I will still help my sister and visit my parents but I won't be responsible for them and won't have to put up with my brother and his bad attitude, bossiness, selfishness and arrogance any more than I have to when dealing with my parents finances for them.
I hope that things will change and he will not be able to have them pay for everything and get more money as he pleases anymore. I am talking to my mother as to how she wants me to do it and it may be that for as long as she can she will pay him and help me with money each month. But it will be a certain amount and he will have to learn to budget form it. What bills they pay will be deducted from the amount and he will get what cash is left over after the bills are paid. If he has too many bills then he will get no spending cash.
I'm not sure what is going to happen if he spends more than his allowance but I hope my mother won't cave and pay his overspending for him and he will just have to do with less the next month just like anyone else would have to do, as Ihave had to do for all of my life.
My sister is seeing the surgeon that will be doing her operation to remove the cancer she has in her thyroid tomorrow. I am not overly worried about this and believe it is not a very dangerous operation. I hope that all of her cancer will be able to be removed and not return. She is very frightened and worried and I am trying to help her to not be as these things are never helpful. The worry is wasted if it all works out and gets better or even if it doesn't. the added worry wil not have made it any the beter for having made yourself sick over something completely out of your control.
My hopes for my mother and father being settled in somewhere makes me feel ok for now. But I will still have to cope wit hthe changes that it wil cause and what my brother might do once he can no longer control their life and have influence over their finances.
this is nto what my brother wants, he wants to have both of them in their home and he and I continue to watch them. That is all we can do is watch them and alittle more but we don't have the skills or ability to give them the care that they need. My brother doesn't want them to spend any money for their care so that there will be something for him to inherit when they die. I too had hoped and wanted to inherit something as well so that I would be able to not worry about my own retirement. They have rental houses that would provide a stable income to provide for me if I were able to inherit one or two of them. Now it depends on how long they live in assisted living as to if or what I might inherit.
though I would like to inherit something, I would not ask them to not use their own hard earned wealth to live in comfort while they are in their final years. Plus, once they are placed I no longer have to go and stay and watch my dad anymore and so can get out of that anxiety filled situation. I will still help my sister and visit my parents but I won't be responsible for them and won't have to put up with my brother and his bad attitude, bossiness, selfishness and arrogance any more than I have to when dealing with my parents finances for them.
I hope that things will change and he will not be able to have them pay for everything and get more money as he pleases anymore. I am talking to my mother as to how she wants me to do it and it may be that for as long as she can she will pay him and help me with money each month. But it will be a certain amount and he will have to learn to budget form it. What bills they pay will be deducted from the amount and he will get what cash is left over after the bills are paid. If he has too many bills then he will get no spending cash.
I'm not sure what is going to happen if he spends more than his allowance but I hope my mother won't cave and pay his overspending for him and he will just have to do with less the next month just like anyone else would have to do, as Ihave had to do for all of my life.
My sister is seeing the surgeon that will be doing her operation to remove the cancer she has in her thyroid tomorrow. I am not overly worried about this and believe it is not a very dangerous operation. I hope that all of her cancer will be able to be removed and not return. She is very frightened and worried and I am trying to help her to not be as these things are never helpful. The worry is wasted if it all works out and gets better or even if it doesn't. the added worry wil not have made it any the beter for having made yourself sick over something completely out of your control.
My hopes for my mother and father being settled in somewhere makes me feel ok for now. But I will still have to cope wit hthe changes that it wil cause and what my brother might do once he can no longer control their life and have influence over their finances.
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