'managing' and putting your personal desires aside

part my healing, a real watershed moment, was when I was realizing


as I talked to my therapist, at the time (many years ago), was that I had


to be responsible for my feelings and that epiphany lent itself to realizing


that I had to be 'self responsible in life'...It took me many years to work on that


idea and working hard to be self disciplined - reaching out to finding commonality with others


being responsible and steadfast/reliable at work and so on. I had found it difficult to marry


the two worlds of 'going for what I liked in life' as well as feeling like I was covering


my responsibilities in life....but I found myself thinking about it tonight - and I realized


that 'managing' life means putting your personal desires aside at times and that 'idea'


lead me to find super commonality and respect for everyone in my life. I feel very grateful


and humble to have discovered this idea for myself... 


It's grounding, significant and affirming.



Sending peace and yuletide wishes out to you guys and your loved ones.


xo


Mark

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Community LeaderMid
Mid

Cherish those moments when it seems to fit and merge from before to now!
arfie
arfie

I love those *light bulb* moments where a concept which had been eluding me suddenly connects to an illumination I can navigate by.

My own epitome down this path came when I began to see my desires as mere preferences. My preferences are worth stating and going for, but they are seldom worth stopping the show over. I have since been amazed at how often compromising my preferences has led me to gratifying experiences and even new preferences. The Cosmos really are far more creative than my puny human brain ever can be. It pays to trust the unseen forces. They can see around corners we don't even know the existence of.
malibumark
malibumark

Thanks Mid, thanks Arfie. Merry Christmas Eve!
SensitiveHoboLady
SensitiveHoboLady

Merry Christmas Eve mark! Hope you have a most excellent holiday weekend!
malibumark
malibumark

Thanks Nikki!! Merry Christmas Eve!! Joyeux Noel!
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD

It's wonderful that therapy has helped so much and I agree that lightbulb moments are awesome..... Merry Christmas LC... I hope that you have a wonderful and peaceful holiday.... Big squishy hug....xo
malibumark
malibumark

thanks JD! Sending warm holiday wishes!! x
mlr0853
mlr0853

Merry Christmas Mark....seems like you've found your "flow"...what a gift :) ml
malibumark
malibumark

Thanks Mary Louise. Have a peaceful night.