Makes it easier..
I spent the weekend in Ks with family. Stayed at my mom's, seen my two half brothers and half sister. Spent one day up at my aunt's farm and got to see 3 of my uncles and hung out for a few hours. Didn't do anything exciting just visiting which is fine by me. My kids got to ride a four wheeler around on the farm, so they had fun. My daughter got sick Saturday night and Sunday morning so we stayed another day. On our way back home today my daughter flat out asks me if me and HE was still together. I hadn't had the conversation yet with them so I decided to go ahead have it while on the road. I told them that no we weren't together anymore and I told them that he called me pathetic, worthless and that he didn't feel like I loved him or his kids anymore. My kids asked how could he not see that I cared after all the stuff I've done for him over the years. How I cleaned house while he was sitting on the computer or drinking and never helped me clean or do anything. My daughter tells me that she walked in on him in the bedroom while he was talking on the phone to someone telling them I was lazy and didn't do anything around the house. My son tells me that HE told him that he was the worst player on the soccer team and they were going to lose all their games because he sucked so bad. A few other things they shared with me and believe me it's making it all that much more easier for me to stay mad with him. More so now that the kids are telling me about things that happened while I wasn't around. I feel bad about the 3 kids that are there still but come on. The crap they started telling me started making my blood boil. But no contact Not even to bitch him out. I got my appointment with the Domestic Violence center tomorrow. Looking forward to it.
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I\"m glad you have a lot of family and relatives. I hardly have any at all. And as for the kids, damn sorry, that would upset me. I hope they aren\'t hurting over it though. Sometimes if they know you\'re hurt, then they hurt for you too. Make sure you tell them everything is going to be ok, and you\'re ok and it\'s not for them to worry about, that it\'s not their fault at all and they didn\'t deserve that kind of treatment either. And when people are toxic like that for you, the best thing to do is leave because you and them deserve better. I hope you\'re appt went well. Later, hugs
Thanks Rainyangel. Yes I talked with them and told them that normal people don\'t treat each other that way. Told them not to put up with someone who talks to them like that either way friends or someone more significant. Yeah I am still pretty pissed about it. Will bring it up in conversation with the kids in a few days to see if they thought of anything else. I really feel bad for his kids even tho I know it\'s not my problem, I can only imagine the worst as they continue to live in the environment they do.