long road

Well it has been about a month since I found out my husband was having an affair. Things are tough. Some days worse than others. We are having a lot of issues with our children. 2 of them have hralth issues at the moment and are seeing specialists. Another one is going through a nasty custody battle. I know that all of these things put strains on a healthy marriage. It is very hard on one that is struggling to survive. I don't know if I am making things with my husband out to be more thwn they are but there are days that I feel there is no hope. Today is one of those days. We made a promise to spend more time together. He is mad at our 20 year old son so he seems to take it out on me. ( he has always done this so it is nothing new). I asked him yesterday if we could do something together today. He said "I don't know maybe. We really don't have the money to do anything". I told him that I didn't care if we just went for a drive or even a walk that I just wanted to spend time together. He is now sleeping at 345pm and says he might as well sleep the whole day. He has 1 day off a week and thats right it's today. I told him I was going out in a while and if he wanted to join me great, if not it shows me a lot about our relationship.