Little by Little- Tony

I have a problem with the disease LOVING TOO MUCH. Its when you happen to love other things in your life more than yourself. I have this problem with one specific person, TONY. Tony is just a baby/ my best friend  and I happen to control him and think for him all the time. I see he needs some direction and also the fact that I am living with him I make sure he is on top of his shit or else it becomes my problem. I have left his house and I have been focusing on me. I come to his house to visit  and he still asks me to do stuff like cook him something to eat or tries to get close. I have been keeping my distance and making him do everything he needs to do for himself. I still find myself telling him what to do. I even fall into it because Tony has found ways to go around it. He makes it seem like something he really needs help with when he is still asking me to do things for him. I sometimes think he acts dumb on purpose just so I can do things for him!! I feel like he uses my love just to take care of his burden. As a friend of 11 years that hurts :( Im on top of that boy though and Im not a fool. Im strong and Im still keeping myself from loving him too much.