Life changes
As my parents are being moved into living assistance and their lives are changing, so is my sister having to get used to living without them there with her all the time. I am not sure what is to be done with her but they are going to try and let her remain in her house where she has lived if possible.
Also, my brother will have to get used to a life where mom and dad aren't paying for everything for him. Though he will still be living in one of their houses rent free and get the rent from one of the others to live on, it will not be as much as he is used to getting. This is what my mother has said she wants. He will have to be an adult and pay his own bills, have things under his own name and deal with budgets and decisions on what is more important, paying the bills and keeping the lights on or partying.
I will have to get used to dealing with my parents finances and seeing that their bills are paid while also taking a more active part of my sisters life. It is still unclear if I and my brother will get any inheritance though like my brother my mom siad I should get the rent form the houses I would be inheriting jsut like my brother for as long as they own the houses. So this works for now but who knows if they will live for a very loong time and have to sell the hosues. I wil lstill need to find employment so I can save for soem retirement or care for myself when I am older.
I have no family other than my brother and sister who i can't rely on to give me any aid in my own old age so I'm pretty much alone in this. But if I inherit the houses as we hope to get all worked out in a new trust written to shelter my parent's property then I may have something to fall back on and support me in the coming years.
Right now though it is all changes and the unknown and I am very stressful about it. I don't know what will happen next, what my brother may do, what will become of my sister if they cna't work out her living in the family house or if my parents will get along well in the new place and how long they can stay there before their money runs out.
I wish I could put it all aside inmy mind and not worry but it is difficult when reminded of it daily. I can no longer stay away form the family and their issues and live alone unreminded and so not anxious. I am going to have to build up some kind of strength toprotect myself as I work through the nes changes and get my life in some kind of balance in which I can live.
Also, my brother will have to get used to a life where mom and dad aren't paying for everything for him. Though he will still be living in one of their houses rent free and get the rent from one of the others to live on, it will not be as much as he is used to getting. This is what my mother has said she wants. He will have to be an adult and pay his own bills, have things under his own name and deal with budgets and decisions on what is more important, paying the bills and keeping the lights on or partying.
I will have to get used to dealing with my parents finances and seeing that their bills are paid while also taking a more active part of my sisters life. It is still unclear if I and my brother will get any inheritance though like my brother my mom siad I should get the rent form the houses I would be inheriting jsut like my brother for as long as they own the houses. So this works for now but who knows if they will live for a very loong time and have to sell the hosues. I wil lstill need to find employment so I can save for soem retirement or care for myself when I am older.
I have no family other than my brother and sister who i can't rely on to give me any aid in my own old age so I'm pretty much alone in this. But if I inherit the houses as we hope to get all worked out in a new trust written to shelter my parent's property then I may have something to fall back on and support me in the coming years.
Right now though it is all changes and the unknown and I am very stressful about it. I don't know what will happen next, what my brother may do, what will become of my sister if they cna't work out her living in the family house or if my parents will get along well in the new place and how long they can stay there before their money runs out.
I wish I could put it all aside inmy mind and not worry but it is difficult when reminded of it daily. I can no longer stay away form the family and their issues and live alone unreminded and so not anxious. I am going to have to build up some kind of strength toprotect myself as I work through the nes changes and get my life in some kind of balance in which I can live.
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I hope your sister can keep living in the house, sounds like she needs a place to live, and she has gone through a lot with your parents. Your brother, yeah we all have to grow up sometime but as someone who does not have much money a part time job-AND my family is helping me due to hospitalization last April I guess I can\'t say much about that
It does sound stressful with all the details, hope you can find employment, I gave up until I found a state program here-Division of Vocational Rehab that is eligible for people with disabilities including mental-life long anxiety in my case. I can relate to you having to build some strength, I am working on that, I have to find a way to support myself, and someday my parents may need me-I have a brother thank goodness who is reliable, though lives in another state. He is in charge mostly if they become ill or unable to deal with things.
Good luck, and keep taking care of yourself while dealing with all this, are you getting any kind of help or could from other sources? Like state programs? I take a med too that helps me to deal I think, I refused all meds for years, then brokedown, now am on one