Learning to deal with the differences
I don't know why I do this, but I've seen the habit in my mental health care professionals as well. When I can't reach someone emotionally or understand them I tend to obsess until I find a sense of common ground. I don't know if we're all like that. Today was a challenging day and then I talked to my family over three separate calls for different moments of support. All was good but then I needed more. I reached out to my friend the abbess and then googled the orthodox saint for mental health and I decided to focus on her when I have such need. It's really like a eureka moment. An anchor for me. I have a hard time understanding my sister sometimes but I have got to leave it alone. We all have sides to us and space between that can't be broached through communication. I think accepting that also lets people be themselves. Praying to a personal support person like a saint can help me be ok with our differences mentally, it also helps me appreciate the monastics I am with and friends with as well.
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I think in a weird way schizophrenia makes us desperate for attention and might make us in a weird way controlling.
I know we all want to be seen and heard and have some sense of peace or stability in our lives. I’ve got to manifest that in a healthy constructive way.
I agree completely that sometimes our differences are so profound that there seems to be a wedge that isn't easily penetrated
I think we're just closer to some people than other's
Sometimes we just click so well and sometimes not even when we care for someone
I just try and be grateful for those who I am really intuned with
Our best friend's that can also be family are such a blessing
Big squishy hug sweetie...xo
Thanks Janet!!
i wasn't too awful surprised that the orthodox saint of mental health is the same as the roman catholic saint. when i finished my roman catholic initiation at the age of 40 something, i chose dymphna as my patron saint. are we praying to the same irish princess? i wasn't able to sustain the roman catholic participation, but i still take great comfort in dymphna's presence in my life. a philosopher i studied concurrently with dymphna is henri j nouwen, in particular his book, "the return of the prodigal son." i suspect you would appreciate the book. it's a short and easy read i have studied over and over. i lost my copy somewhere along my trail of tears. i'm overdue to replace it.
inside my own psychosis (strictly personal), i treat use of the royal we as a symptom of deflection. worrying the royal we is sooooo much easier than sorting my personal psycho snot knots. psycho analyzing the billions of people i will never meet keeps me to busy to take responsibility for my own internal landscape. i like to keep it personal. in the strictly personal spirit, i, too, crave attention and obsess uncontrollably over people i wish i understood. dear dymphna, please help me to quiet my mind and spirit. mark's, too.
Thanks Arfie!!!! Xxxxx
I went to the Good Friday church service last night and a friend who goes to Arizona for the winter was there for the first time since getting back. I ran(not literally)over to see her and she hugged me but seemed very detached. I don't know what was wrong but she wasn't herself. Not too long ago I would have thought maybe I had done something wrong or made her mad somehow. But, this time I just thought she must be in pain from her back problem or is just unsure of herself since she's been gone a long time. She's normally a very outgoing person. I will pray for God to help her and meet her needs, He knows what's wrong and I don't need to know it.
Have a blessed Easter, Mark!
Thanks Becky!!