Latest Brother phone call
My sister called my brother and said that she is not feeling good something to do with numbness of her face and fingers. I have no idea what it is and it could be something. So she wants him to take her to the Emergency ward. This is a thing with her that we can't seem to break, every little headache or dizziness or whatever she wants to go to the emergency ward. Three out of four times it is nothing and a waste of time but we can't not take her on the chance that it is something. She has many problems so it can't be ignored.
so, she calls him because she knows I don't like hospitals and really don't like emergency wards. I have had to take her and sit for hours at them at least ten times as well as having to do it with my mother when she almost died and with my father a couple times.
My brother calls and tells me about her calling and I say that he should probable take her because if you talk her out of it she will probably call 911 and go anyway which cost alot of money. He tells me how he has been visiting her everyday for a week. I ask him and how many times have you taken her to the emergency ward. His answer, None. and so even after that he asks if I am busy today and if I can take her. I told him no, I hate hospitals them make me actually want to vomit when I go in them.
so he reluctantly says he will take her but then spends a couple minutes telling me how I should visit her more and how she is always talking about me. He tries to lay some kind of guilt trip on me and I don't even know why. he wil get nothing from it so it must be he is only trying to get me to visit my sister more often.
It is not like I ignore her. I take her to church and spend maybe two to four hours after with her on Sundays and visit maybe once every other week for a few hours and take her to Church functions at least once a month. Plus I buy her lunch on Sundays half the time whild when he takes her out to lunch he makes her buy his lunch for him. He may visit more often but he isnt' having quality visits because they are short most of the time and he yells at her half the time. Che complains about them tome and her social workers.
I'm not going to let it get to me but I had to write it down here to purge it. I know later he is going to try and use this against me or guilt me because he finally had to take her to the emergency ward and waste his time.
It is all fine and good when he decides to drop in on her and leave when he wants but he has never had any responsibility to actually have to be there. He did nto have to sleep over at her house for a month and a half back before they would let her stay there alone like I did. He has never had to sit all day in a hot smelly emergency ward like I have or even spend the night once with her when she was sick. He has always gotten me to do it. Even when he is there or she calls him he tries to put the responsability on me.
One shouldn't try and play they are the good brother because you visit more often and take her to the circus that she pays for and then not do any of the more unpleasant things involved with being a brother.
P.S. It occurred to me that if she had called me I would have tried to talk her out of needing to go to the emergency ward but then would have gone and got her and taken her. I would not even have thought to call my brother to see if he would take her. the idea would never enter my mind. I would probably not even cal to tell him unless they held us there along time or something was actually found wrong with her.
I also wanted to add that she had just been to the emergency ward last week. She had had a seizure. She is epileptic. She doesn't have them often, only three times in the last 12 years. But the last two were once a year since my mother first went into the hospital in 2011. Anyway, my brother was not there when it happened but had just left when one of her caretakers arrives, and he returned to her house after she called and tried to talk the EMT that came to the 911 call from taking her to the hospital. And then instead of going with her and staying he gets her caretaker to call me to go. He shows up at the ward to ask some questions after that while I was waiting so I am not sure why he couldn't have taken her himself except that I know he is selfish and inconsiderate and so did not want to be bothered other than by a fast walk thru show of his care for her. I know he does care about her but I think it is only so far as it doesn't inconvenience him.
so, she calls him because she knows I don't like hospitals and really don't like emergency wards. I have had to take her and sit for hours at them at least ten times as well as having to do it with my mother when she almost died and with my father a couple times.
My brother calls and tells me about her calling and I say that he should probable take her because if you talk her out of it she will probably call 911 and go anyway which cost alot of money. He tells me how he has been visiting her everyday for a week. I ask him and how many times have you taken her to the emergency ward. His answer, None. and so even after that he asks if I am busy today and if I can take her. I told him no, I hate hospitals them make me actually want to vomit when I go in them.
so he reluctantly says he will take her but then spends a couple minutes telling me how I should visit her more and how she is always talking about me. He tries to lay some kind of guilt trip on me and I don't even know why. he wil get nothing from it so it must be he is only trying to get me to visit my sister more often.
It is not like I ignore her. I take her to church and spend maybe two to four hours after with her on Sundays and visit maybe once every other week for a few hours and take her to Church functions at least once a month. Plus I buy her lunch on Sundays half the time whild when he takes her out to lunch he makes her buy his lunch for him. He may visit more often but he isnt' having quality visits because they are short most of the time and he yells at her half the time. Che complains about them tome and her social workers.
I'm not going to let it get to me but I had to write it down here to purge it. I know later he is going to try and use this against me or guilt me because he finally had to take her to the emergency ward and waste his time.
It is all fine and good when he decides to drop in on her and leave when he wants but he has never had any responsibility to actually have to be there. He did nto have to sleep over at her house for a month and a half back before they would let her stay there alone like I did. He has never had to sit all day in a hot smelly emergency ward like I have or even spend the night once with her when she was sick. He has always gotten me to do it. Even when he is there or she calls him he tries to put the responsability on me.
One shouldn't try and play they are the good brother because you visit more often and take her to the circus that she pays for and then not do any of the more unpleasant things involved with being a brother.
P.S. It occurred to me that if she had called me I would have tried to talk her out of needing to go to the emergency ward but then would have gone and got her and taken her. I would not even have thought to call my brother to see if he would take her. the idea would never enter my mind. I would probably not even cal to tell him unless they held us there along time or something was actually found wrong with her.
I also wanted to add that she had just been to the emergency ward last week. She had had a seizure. She is epileptic. She doesn't have them often, only three times in the last 12 years. But the last two were once a year since my mother first went into the hospital in 2011. Anyway, my brother was not there when it happened but had just left when one of her caretakers arrives, and he returned to her house after she called and tried to talk the EMT that came to the 911 call from taking her to the hospital. And then instead of going with her and staying he gets her caretaker to call me to go. He shows up at the ward to ask some questions after that while I was waiting so I am not sure why he couldn't have taken her himself except that I know he is selfish and inconsiderate and so did not want to be bothered other than by a fast walk thru show of his care for her. I know he does care about her but I think it is only so far as it doesn't inconvenience him.
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