Just relized something

I just occured to me that coming to grips with what happened and getting rid of the shame of it is only part of the battle that i(we) face. All of those "bad" copeing mechanisems that i used, i still use, and will continue to use unless i retrain myself. I think i had stopped going to therapy last year simply because the nightmares had stopped. It was an obvious mistake to stop going, and i have since started going back again. I've got to use the therapy on two fronts; one, to loose the shame and come to grips with what happend; and two, to learn how to deal with normal everyday stressors in a healthy way.