Journal entry
I know it has been awhile-Work has been driving me crazy. There was a shortage of inventory (cigaretts-yuck) at the store and the district managers had a "little talk" with the cashiers there. Me being one of them. I don't want to work someplace where my integrity is being questioned so the next day I was out hunting for another job. I didn't want to quit one till I had another. Well, I have another...It took about a week to find one so I will be starting it on Friday. Still in a convience store and hours that work for me and the kids.
Had to be in King and Queen Co. on the Monday the 12th for a mediation hearing. Me and my sister-in-law drove up on Sunday and got a room. The hotel had an indoor pool with hot tub-whoo! I got a good nights rest and got to the courthouse about ten minutes early. I wanted to be sure to get there before him. It was in a room off the courthouse and the waiting area was in the courtroom itself. Me and SIL was the only ones in there waiting till the mediator got done with another couple. So we are talking and in he walks. He stands with his hands on his hips and just stares at SIL wondering who she is. It kinda freaked her out, lol. I watched him for a few minutes and then I just turn my head and he walks out and gets a chair and waits outside. Not a word was spoken. Our turn comes and just me, him, and the mediator goes into the mediation room. The mediator tells us what is going on, how it all works, and says he has about a 87% success rate at a peaceful mediation where the families do not go to court. He asked who wants to go first and of course D speaks up and says he is not open to it and wants to go to court-that there are "others pulling puppet strings" and some other offensive (to me) things about how he didn't know where the kids were-if they were alive or dead and other crap. The mediator then looks to me and and asks me what I would like to say. I said that it is clear that this is not going to work and he says to just give him some compromise and maybe things might start to work out. I said visitation with me having custody. A week every other month and a couple of weeks during the summer. The mediator says that sound reasonable and looks over to D and ask him what he thought. D says "I find it very insulting and will not go for anything but court". The mediator just sighs and looks over at me and says that I am free to go. The whole process (not including the waiting) took about ten minutes. I had to be there at 9am and we were out by a little after ten. So about 400.00 dollars was spent by me-rented a car, hotel room, gas, food etc.....and that was it. It is going to take me a couple of months to pay off that credit card bill. But I had to do it. I will be doing it again it looks like and will do whatever I have to. A. is seeing a counsellor so those records will be called into play and the guardian ad litem will be assigned. He has opened a HUGE can of worms and started something that he is not going to win. Wait till I am awarded child support and support payments....I can't believe how much he hates me. Is it truly hate? Can he really hate me that much?
Out of all the mendacities, "I love you" was my favorite.
I know that he is not any good for me. Logically, I do. Oh, but my heart aches for him.....
Had to be in King and Queen Co. on the Monday the 12th for a mediation hearing. Me and my sister-in-law drove up on Sunday and got a room. The hotel had an indoor pool with hot tub-whoo! I got a good nights rest and got to the courthouse about ten minutes early. I wanted to be sure to get there before him. It was in a room off the courthouse and the waiting area was in the courtroom itself. Me and SIL was the only ones in there waiting till the mediator got done with another couple. So we are talking and in he walks. He stands with his hands on his hips and just stares at SIL wondering who she is. It kinda freaked her out, lol. I watched him for a few minutes and then I just turn my head and he walks out and gets a chair and waits outside. Not a word was spoken. Our turn comes and just me, him, and the mediator goes into the mediation room. The mediator tells us what is going on, how it all works, and says he has about a 87% success rate at a peaceful mediation where the families do not go to court. He asked who wants to go first and of course D speaks up and says he is not open to it and wants to go to court-that there are "others pulling puppet strings" and some other offensive (to me) things about how he didn't know where the kids were-if they were alive or dead and other crap. The mediator then looks to me and and asks me what I would like to say. I said that it is clear that this is not going to work and he says to just give him some compromise and maybe things might start to work out. I said visitation with me having custody. A week every other month and a couple of weeks during the summer. The mediator says that sound reasonable and looks over to D and ask him what he thought. D says "I find it very insulting and will not go for anything but court". The mediator just sighs and looks over at me and says that I am free to go. The whole process (not including the waiting) took about ten minutes. I had to be there at 9am and we were out by a little after ten. So about 400.00 dollars was spent by me-rented a car, hotel room, gas, food etc.....and that was it. It is going to take me a couple of months to pay off that credit card bill. But I had to do it. I will be doing it again it looks like and will do whatever I have to. A. is seeing a counsellor so those records will be called into play and the guardian ad litem will be assigned. He has opened a HUGE can of worms and started something that he is not going to win. Wait till I am awarded child support and support payments....I can't believe how much he hates me. Is it truly hate? Can he really hate me that much?
Out of all the mendacities, "I love you" was my favorite.
I know that he is not any good for me. Logically, I do. Oh, but my heart aches for him.....
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