Jaden my 7yr old

  A morning last week I went and talked to Jaden's teacher this morning…. (my  7yr old) Jaden last night… Sigh We went for a walk, well they biked I walked, so they were sweating…   and I stopped at my mom and dads for a second,  Jaden went in the house to go potty about 3 min later my dad yelled for me outside..to come in so I went in and Jaden was in the bathroom… she was sweaty so she couldn’t get her shorts to fit right …   She is like Mom I am fat.... I cant get my shorts up… ..I was like J, I don’t ever want to hear u say that again about urself…  and she pitched her arm… and said but my look I am chubby…  I held out my arm to her and said pinch mommys arm… u think mommy is chubby?  And she said no.. and I said Jaden that is normal.. its skin… U are not chubby or fat.. u are healthy…  So I dropped it at the time.. cause my dad was outside the door.. and heard and Jaden was embarrassed… and I was steaming  Sooo… Chaise grabbed a freezeeee….  And Jaden said I don’t want one…   well JC she is a kid.. who doesn’t want one..   I was like yes u do, ur having one… (Cause she has been turning down food again)  So we went home got ready for bed… and I went in Jadens room to talk to her alone.. and asked her why she said that.. what was going on..   She said this girl.. I don’t even know how to spell her name..   Came up to her while she was standing in line after recess to go back inside.. came up and pinched her arm.  And said “Yourrrr chubby”…  Soooooooooo..  I had a talk with Jaden telling her that she isn’t.. and that it isn’t ok for this little girl to be saying this stuff..  and if Jaden was saying this stuff to some little girl.. I,  as a parent would want to know.. because she would be in trouble..   So went to talked to Jadens teacher this morning… and told her..  She said she is gonna have a talk with the other two 2nd grade teachers… and they are gonna have a little talk with everyone…   JC  Broke my damn heart…. I wanted to cry..    U know I think kids.. need to fight their own battles, to learn how to stick up for themselves…   But this is the 3rd time Jaden has come home saying this from TWO little girls that hang out together.. and its just not ok anymore…  Jaden is turning away food again.. and dang it.. her face last night broke my heart..  

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Im so sorry to hear this. Kids find anything to pick on. growing up it was my height and being too skinny. It really does mess with your pysche. I think you handled this well. it sucks that at such an young age she is already stressing about weigth issues!
MelisaDE
MelisaDE

thats just it... the kid doesnt have a weight issue... at all...
I just feel for her..
deleted_user
deleted_user

Poor thing. I dont know how Ill handle these types of issues when my girls get to her age. youre a good mommy!
deleted_user
deleted_user

My 8 year old is doing the same thing and it breaks my heart every time. Let her worry about it when she is older and only IF she has an issue, I say! I want my little girl to stay a little girl for just a bit longer....
MelisaDE
MelisaDE

there are all sorts of diff body types out there, diff personalities... My 7 yr old has a heart of gold, eyes that twinkle and a smile and giggle that lights up my world. I dont understand how little kids can already be so mean and already have a sterotype of what they think a person should be... Jaden is a beautiful little girl inside and out, and I wouldnt want it any other way.