It gets even worse
Thank you all so much for your kindness and support. Will get back to each of you in the AM. I just closed by Facebook account and will never reopen it. I got a message from ES that he didn't want any more of my BS and that I am a FB (that's not facebook but rhymes with Witch). This has been an endless day of swords in the heart. I have no choice but to stay totally away, realize that, and wait until hopefully one day (before it's too late) that you don't treat your parents like this. Yes, we each have our own story and we all hurt. God bless and be with each of you. Hugs and prayers
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I\'m praying for you. Good night
Sword in the heart...boy, that sums the feeling up real well. I am so sorry, Why. Staying away sounds like a good plan for you. It\'s a difficult point to come to, but once there it\'s (seems to me) better than the interaction fraught with constant pain. It\'s certainly more peaceful, and the roller coaster of hope and hope dashed ends. It just does. I no longer wonder or worry about thinking if I should text, call, email. I just don\'t do it. It\'s an odd place to be, but it is clean and clear and what they(EC) think they want.
The venom and the hate that spews at us from our EC just baffels...I can\'t not fathom it, nor understand what feeds it, especially when they don\'t see us...do they just hate us because we still exist in this world? The only thing that makes sence to me is to go back and see how much more evil this world is recently and realize that this evil is filling our EC too!
it\'s beyond horrible to be treated like this. But I truly think it\'s a relief also, to know you\'ve done all you could and move on without looking back. I\'m not a FB fan at all, except to play games and keep in touch with friends. It saves a lot of worry about who\'s posting pictures, who\'s doing what. I\'m the same with email. If anyone wants to talk with us, we have a phone. If not, that\'s up to them. There comes a time to be hard nosed to save our sanity from all of this, and being hard nosed prevents us from being bitter... just being realists. Thinking of you and your strength. xo
How horrible! That\'s just being abusive and completely unnecessary. You don\'t need to be spoken to or written to in that manner. I am so sorry that you\'ve been put through this. I\'m praying that God will bring you some happiness and peace. Big hugs.
So glad u got off FB. My ED said some ugly things about me and my cousin told her off on FB. I saw none of it, as ED blocked me a while back. How ugly to spew this venom. Don\'t go there. Proud of you.
I hope that you live close enough to them, that those grandchildren there will be able to come to you. And they will. They love you
I\'m so sorry my friend I know how it hurts but you will feel so much better once you pick up the pieces of your life and move on. And by that I mean put some distance between you & this ES. I have learned after years of trying, begging and pleding. Moving on feels SO MUCH BETTER once the stress is gone. Just think how he will feel the next time he sees you and you just walk right by like no one was standing there. It will be a schock for him and a taste of victory for you. luv m
Thank you all so much for your support and care. Some days are bad and some are even worse. However, since I have decided not to take any more abuse and beg for his attention, i feel so much better. I am the only one who can control my life and I will not let things depend on such an ungrateful ES. Your messages mean more than I can ever tell you but thank God for you and for this group. We will make it together by God\'s grace and love.