Is it possible to find true friends closeby anymore, or is it just me?
Recently most of my time has been spent with Frank. That's o.k. but I still need friends. I have made some wonderful friends here on DS and I wish you were closer but you're not. So, I need someone to go out with occasionally. We all do. So, about 3 years ago I met a girl who's my age in the waiting room of my psychiatrists office. We exchanged mumbers and have kept in touch. We've gone out several times. Day before yesterday she called to see if I wanted to go get my nails done and then go do some shopping and I did. We had a great time. She told me that the next night she wanted me to go to this new club with her. On Facebook later on she asked if we were still on and she said "Yes". So, I call her around 5 o'clock and no answer. Frank leaves to go play pool with his friends and around 9 I send her a text asking what happened. She said "Sorry, have been in the pool all day and didn't get the phone. Yes, we're still going. That place I told you about sucks(meaning she'd already gone and just didn't call) so meet me at The 2nd Half Bar. I went there, Frank was done with pool and met me there and my friend was nowhere to be found. I call her cell and she said "It was too crowded in there for my friend so we went next door to Toms Place. Me and Frank went next door to Toms and she was there. I sat with her, her husband and friend. We had a couple drinks, danced and talked. Then, she said they were going to head out. Now, my point is this........If she had really wanted me to go out with her she would have called me. Instead she finally answered my text at 9 o'clock, I guess because she just felt bad or sorry for me or whatever. I thought it was rude and Frank kept saying "If she was a true friend she would have called you instead of waiting until 9 o'clock to finally get back to you and then not be at the place she said she'd be." It makes me feel bad. Is the bar scene the best place? No. But it's o.k. to meet friends. The real kicker is this........we're sitting there at the bar and she's saying to her friend "Oh, you'll just love Kacey. She's so sweet. Is it o.k. if I tell her where we met?" I said o.k. So she tells her friend we met at the psychiatrists office and said "When I first met Kacey she barely went out anywhere. It was pitiful." Then she said "Kacey, I never told you this but I told Dr. Pratt one time that I'd met you and he told me to try to be your friend because you needed a friend." I told her, laughingly, I sure hope you don't hang out with me because Dr. Pratt told you to or because you feel sorry for me. That has gotten me thinking. Does she really want me as a friend or is she just being nice? The last person who was a "friend" that I spent time with, ultimately stopped talking to me when the money train stopped and she got on her feet financially. Am I pathetic? Why can't I find people that really like me? People say to go out and make friends. I'm trying but the people I do find seem to hurt my feelings. Frank has lots of friends and it makes me feel so bad that I don't.