is it me?
really thought i had at last met a nice woman but 4 years into this relationship i feel like i come about 3rd or 4th in her priorities. as i write this she is going yet again to stay with another one of her family members this time its her nephews 9th birthday party. i know this sounds really mean and selfish of me but this sister lives 2 and a half hours away. but my g/f car is basically knackered through her own fault. shes been told not to driver it by a mechanic but she is insisting on taking the risk just to go to her nephews birthday party,not like its just down the road. she can't use my car because my elderly aunt is in hospital and i use it for visiting her. but if my g/f was more lets say attentive if thats the right word to use towards me i wouldn't mind these stay overs she does with her family members. i can't go because we have 4 dogs one of which belonged to one of her sisters and my g/f said we would have this dog when her sister wanted it rehoming i wasn't even asked if i minded although i do love this little dog now shes here with us. anyway so instead of my g/f just visiting her family members for a few hours so i can go to so our dogs can be left for a while she insists on going and staying over. over the last 3 years this has become increasingly frequent. i was really upset recently her cousin is getting married again the journey is 2 and a half hours away. we had got a dog sitter to stay over but she has let us down. oringnally my g/f had planned to for us to stay in a low grade hotel along with one of her sisters and her kids .i wasn't again asked just told thats where we was staying. but after being let down by a dog sitter a neighbour kindly offered to let our dogs out during the day meaning i could still go to this wedding but not stay overnight. but my g/f refused saying she wanted breakfast with her sister and to be with her relatives the next day aswell meaning that i couldn't go as i have to look after our dogs .as you can't leave dogs alone all through the night as two of ours have separation anxiety. so her mum then tells her as i'm not going instead of paying out for a hotel room she can stay with her at her aunts. that didn't suit her at all . but as i'm rambling here my point is we have just returned from 5 days camping ok it rained one day but we only went out once . the rest of the time she spent reading not even help me take the dogs for walks round the campsite. but when shes with her family shes chatting, if they want to go somewhere shes all for it. as i've said before when shes online gaming shes laughing and chatting away but with me shes totally different. if i do want to go somewhere its hard to get her out of bed but hey if shes going to visit her family shes up no problem. like today shes off to this birthday party ,shes went to bed at 11pm wouldnt even let me watch tv in bed because she said she needed her sleep but normally shes up till about 4am playing her online gaming even though sometimes she knows i want to go out the next day. like last week i had asked her to come with me to the groomers as one of our dogs doesn't like travelling in a cage. she said yes. she stayed up on her pc until the early hours then when i tried waking her up to come with me to the groomers she told me to fuck off she was tired.
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