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Day 11 0f 365 - Man Break
This breaking the patterns thing is like an onion.  Each time you peel off one layer there's another one underneath.  And a list of new books to read.  It gets frustrating sometimes because you think:  When will it end?  Will I ever heal?  Be normal?  Not obsess?  Deep down I know it is or I wouldn't keep going. 
I've noticed something about myself.  When I'm in a relationship life seems kinda bleak.  I'm always anxious, nervous, underconfident, wary, insecure and on edge.  Things just seem a little more unsettled and scary.  Life is like a tunnel and the only thing I see is the relationship.
But when I'm not in a relationship the world is new colours, and opportunities.  There's so much I want to do and see.  I smile and laugh and am good with myself.  I feel free.  Everything around me is interesting and exciting.  The hope of something good and new in the future is exhilirating.
I know I can't be in relationship right now because the feeling I feel outside of a relationship has to be cemented withint me so that when I am in a relationship I feel the same way.  I find myself without a man and I lose myself with one.  Until I am strong enough to be me at all times I can't entertain the thought of thinking of someone else.  And this will take practice because it only takes the slightest wind to bend me and I want to be able to stay tall in a hurricane.  I want to be true to myself.