Im not ready to meet someone after 3 years.

I am still not ready to meet someone after three years since my much loved Smokey died on November 15, 2009.  No one can replace my Smokey.  I don't want a man who goes to the bars all the time either.  I know what is not for me.  I know what I want.  I know I am still not ready.  I don't know if I ever will be ready or it could change for me in a split second.  I am just living one day at a time.  I could use a job or something but I am not complaining.  Live in general is pretty good for me.  I spend 3 days per week on average give or take with my brother Don who has Asperger's Syndrome.  Its not easy spending time with him.  How would you handle someone who does not listen, can not empathize or cannot see things from  your point of view.  This is just part of his syndrome.  Three days per week I babysit my grandson Tyson and have a great time with him.  These 3 days are the high lights of my week.
I think about things.  I want a man who can accept and even tolerate my brother Don and definitely accept and love the rest of my family as much as I do and vice-versa.  I am not asking for too much.  There is more on my list but this is enough for now.  These are deal breakers for me if a man can't do it.  Dave had a hard time with Don and so did his room mate Rob.  When Don was not there, they really came down hard on him.  I kept telling them he has a neurological disorder in his brain.  What do you expect from 2 alcoholics?  Not much and no intelligence either.
I am making a curry ground beef dinner that I can freeze in individual containers to have through out the week for myself.  I just put rice and veggies with it for a great meal for myself.  I cook what I enjoy eating and not to rank on the top chef or anything.  Its good enough for me.
Take care everyone and I hope your week goes well for you from Diane B