I should be over the most incredible loss in my life?

I can't believe my husbands sister Brenda thinks I should be over the most incredible and unbearable loss of Alan or Smokey, my husband of ten years.  It has only been two months.  The family called my husband Alan but everyone else he was known as Smokey.  It has only been two months since the loss of Smokey.  I can't believe anyone should think I should be over it now as I am just beginning to grieve.  It was sudden, a surprise and shock to me and everyone else.  Grieving the loss of your spouse is a very long road and you just don't get over it in two months.  I think people suck when they think you should be over the unbearable loss of your spouse in two months.  They are very very wrong.