I seem to be my own worst enemy

Awful night last night and awful morning today. She went to see her father for his birthday. In the past he's been an excuse for going to see the other man. I lost it last night. I had asked her to just do something to put my mind at ease and she of course didn't. After a couple of drinks I started looking at phone records and noticed that her father was texting her when she should have been with him. I freaked and texted her because I thought she was with the other man. Turns out, as far as I can tell, she was in fact with her dad. I'm losing mind. I'm home with our dogs and she's off doing whatever. Now she's threatening to ask me to move out which I don't think I will be able to handle. I'm a complete mess and she doesn't seem to have any empathy for what I'm feeling. I just wanted her to do something that would help me not sit here and let my thoughts run wild. In the past she's said she was with her dad and she was actually at a hotel with the other man. I don't know what to do anymore. She says that she loves me and cares about me but those words just ring hollow because of how she conducts herself.