I'm nervous as Dave's Work Christmas Party Dec. 18

I am very nervous as Dave's work has a Christmas party on Dec. 18th.  I only have work clothes to wear.  Dave said that is okay and not to worry about it.  He is clearly speaking from a man's point of view.  He asked me yesterday.  I said if you want to go it's okay.  We are going.  Now I am nervous about it.  I haven't been to someone else's work Christmas Party for a very long long time.   Most of the people I will not know and Dave will have to introduce me.  I am worried about what to wear mostly.  Isn't that crazy?  This will the first impression his coworkers and boss will have of me and I don't want to screw it up.  I feel there is pressure on my shoulders.  I don't think I am the only one who gets nervous about these kinds of situations.  I might ask both my friend Carol S. and daughter to help me figure out what to wear.  My daughter Lisa is more fashion conscious than I am.  She would be one to be very critical of me, which is good under these circcumstances. 
The bank paid for the probate fees out of Smokey's account.  My lawyer sent them a letter requesting this, which is good for me.  The only thing is they sent a cheque and a bank draft.  I will have to return one of them.  I am seeing my lawyer this Tuesday to sign some papers and get one of the payments back so I can return it to the bank.
Smokey's one year anniversary next month.  So far, I am not doing too bad.  I guess I have one positive thing going on in my life, which is Dave.  I am not dwelling on it but I know my body, soul and spirit remember.  It's why I have been inwardly sad.  Today is the 11 month anniversary of Smokey's death.  I am sad inside.  I haven't cried.  I have so many distractions.  Don is coming over for lunch today.  At 1:30 p.m. I am meeting my friend Carol S. so we can attend a party of sorts at Joan's place for 2 p.m.  When it is over, I have to phone Dave as to let him know whose place I will be going to.  I have no idea at this point.  It depends if I get a ride or take the bus.  I am hoping that I will get a ride.  We shall see.  Today I picked up my certificate for passing the Excel Level 1 Course.  Yahoo!  You see there are a lot of things going on in my life today to keep me distracted.  On top of that I am PMSing so am taking 2 Ashwagandha pills along with eating one chocolate bar.  Whoever advised me on eating chocolate, hats off to you as it works on top of my Ashwagandha pills.  Thank you very much for that advice.  It works.
Thank you everyone for all your hugs over the passed few months.  They are greatly appreciated and have helped me thru this painful period of my life and thru the adjustments and changes that are still going on in my life.  You are my life link and support system.  You are valued.  Keep it all up.  Words cannot express what is in my heart for everyone on Daily Strenght.  With a greatful heart from Diane Baillie

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pattiameo
pattiameo

Congratulations on passing Excel, Diane! I knew you would. You have a lot of time before you go to the Christmas party. If your family exchanges gifts, would it be possible for you to put word out that you would like a new outfit for this party? Maybe different people could coordinate and each give you a part of the outfit so it would not be too expensive for anyone, and they could give you your gift the week before Christmas. Just a thought. Hugs, Patti
Patswife
Patswife

Where is the party to be held...this will give you an indication on the type of clothes others may be wearing. A pair of black dress pants and a fancy top will get you anywhere, add a black pasmina (shawl) and you are set! Once you find out where it is being held and what kind of cothes you need, I will take you to Value Village, my favourite store, and if we go on Seniors day I can buy things with your money and get the discount for you! Congrats on passing your course. Hugs, Wendy
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deleted_user

Maybe you can have Dave ask a female coworker how dressy the party is. Isn\'t this exciting, you\'re just like a kid again, same nerves!

Congrats on passing Excel Level1! I knew you could do it. Let\'s hope now that it turns into a job.

Sounds like the estate things are getting resolved slowly but surely. I know you\'re feeling the 11 months now and anticipating that one-year anniversary. Glad that we\'re all here for you and will certainly continue to be.

Hugs, Gail
OnMyOwn2010
OnMyOwn2010

Congrats on passing the Excel Course! Prayers answered! Now will say prayers for you to find the right job...I\'m sure you will look lovely in whatever you choose to wear to the party...Happy to hear that the estate matters are being resolved....and I\'m glad the chocolate is helping...I TOLD YOU IT WOULD!!!...lol...
Blessings ~N~ Hugs, ~E~