I'm in the wrong for not having sex?
This is what happens. I lose track of this supportive enviornment then lose track of my life. Can someone please exsplain to me this?
My "ex" Love broke up with me once again and I'm broken once again. But please tell me this. He is over weight plus has extreem back pain from a herniated disk that he couldnt get help for because of money. Well he lost his job and became bed bound or couch bound. Whenever I would speak to him there was only two things that he was doing. It was frustrating to me because he needed to be moving around and get the blood pumping as well as oxygen. So I did get upset alot about it but tried to hide it most of the time. Anyway when we had sex after he lost his job, he was just fine, a little break, clean up, he was okay except for some back pain. Well as time went on and the more he laid around I noticed his attitude really started changing towards me as well as the sex. After we had sex he got sick and dizzy. The cut off point was when he almost fell because he was so lightheaded. I know its caused from him ejaculating because I tested it a couple times by not letting him finish (I know thats mean and I felt bad for it) but HE DIDNT GET SICK. So I stopped having sex and tried to exsplain that I would rather wait until he got help. Well when we broke up this last time, he completely flipped and used it against me. Saying I was sick by him etc. That's not true at all..... Why? I thought he loved me enough to respect that decision, but I was dead wrong. Should I have just let him suffer over sex knowing he would just get sick??? It broke my heart to see it, so why am I in the wrong for it??
My "ex" Love broke up with me once again and I'm broken once again. But please tell me this. He is over weight plus has extreem back pain from a herniated disk that he couldnt get help for because of money. Well he lost his job and became bed bound or couch bound. Whenever I would speak to him there was only two things that he was doing. It was frustrating to me because he needed to be moving around and get the blood pumping as well as oxygen. So I did get upset alot about it but tried to hide it most of the time. Anyway when we had sex after he lost his job, he was just fine, a little break, clean up, he was okay except for some back pain. Well as time went on and the more he laid around I noticed his attitude really started changing towards me as well as the sex. After we had sex he got sick and dizzy. The cut off point was when he almost fell because he was so lightheaded. I know its caused from him ejaculating because I tested it a couple times by not letting him finish (I know thats mean and I felt bad for it) but HE DIDNT GET SICK. So I stopped having sex and tried to exsplain that I would rather wait until he got help. Well when we broke up this last time, he completely flipped and used it against me. Saying I was sick by him etc. That's not true at all..... Why? I thought he loved me enough to respect that decision, but I was dead wrong. Should I have just let him suffer over sex knowing he would just get sick??? It broke my heart to see it, so why am I in the wrong for it??
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woah. hun, you\'re not wrong here. yeah, the sexual frustration would be difficult for both of you. however if it was a healthy relationship the two of you would be able to discuss it and come to a compromising or overall benefiting conclusion. it seems like he needs to get some help with medical issues, and you can be there for him. but if you\'ve tried to explain it and he\'s not being reasonable, then it might be best to give him some time so he can sort out what he\'s really feeling. having sex with him just to stop him from getting upset is not the best option for you or him. best of luck! i hope this helped some!
Yes baby doll it does help because at least someone else doesnt think I\'m stupid for protecting him. It\'s just when I would try to talk he wouldn\'t listen. It was always \"I have my needs\". Yeah, to get better! I have a hard time opening up to people as it is, and this is one reason why I don\'t try anymore. I\'m 24 in June this year and shouldn\'t have this type of a problem consuming my mind. Ugh :/ Ish breaks my heart to bits!