i hate my daughters school district

my daughter has an IEP and the way things work at her school is they dont have special education classes, they have learning support meaning the core subjects there are two teachers in the room for assistanxce. anyhow one of my daughters majer Quirks is she cant control when angry who she takes it out on, she might be mad at a kid but yell at everyone else but the kid who did something, its the nature of her. well she was being picked on in school yesterday cause she was talking to a boy, and to her the littlest comment turns into mount everest, anyhow so she took out her anger on two teachers, and then sent to the principals office, the entire school is, or should be aware of her condition , yet the assistant principal decided to ask her what is her MALFUNCTION, he admitted saying it to me, now normally i have a leap first ask questions later mentality, but i decided to sit on this one and not flip out on him, but today after a day i am just as livid about this, i am emailing the principal and sorry so lengthy but here is the gist of them email . Today I email you as an upset father, I am fully aware that my daughter is a problem child. She makes mountains out of molehills, as far as how things go, its part of her disorder. She has ASPERRGERS. I capitalize this for a reason which I will get into in a minute. I understand that there was an issue yesterday, people were saying things to victoria about an incident and teasing her, part of her condition ASPERGERS is she takes longer to comprehend certain things and her social skills and how her brain processes information is different. So yesterday she was getting picked on about a boy, that talked to victoria and it upset her and apparently she lashed out at teachers,, I had a talk with her about this but again due to her ASPERGERS, her brain does not properly process who to take her anger out and she more than 90 percent of the time lashes out at the wrong people. Now to the reason I have been Capitalizing ASPERGERS, when she was sent to see your Assistant principal He asked Victoria What her MALFUNCTION was. I don’t believe a supposedly highly educated and trained educator and administrator would not be able to use some tact. The district has all the materials stating about her disease, yet he chose to use a word like that. Its offensive to even send my special needs child to a school that handles issues like this. And I plan on taking this as high up as I possibly can to inform anyone until I feel my issue resolved