I don't get it

I don't get it...people say that children are a blessing yet when you have s*x ,get pregnant and not married ... people tend to look down on those women.
It does not matter if you are a good or bad parent...the fact that you're a parent should be, reason enough.. to put your children before yourself.
Some women can not have children, some women want children and some women that have children and are not what 's considered to be... role models.But my thoughts are.... if you can reproduce then you have done ,something that 's pretty awesome.
I say ....once you have protected or unprotected s*x ,expect that you can or may get pregnant...not everything ....is planned.