I Can't Believe Him!!!!
I'm am so mad....soooo mad. I rarely get this mad, but I'm mad enough to cry. I did cry, so I guess I am mad enough that I cried.
Joey is being soooo.....mean. I just don't get it. It's a long story, but no one reads these so I have no worries about boring someone.
First he gets in these 'moods'. It's why I called off our engagment almost a year ago. He get's quiet and grumpy and he turns horrible. He has no problem making me feel bad when he's in these moods. He belittles me, humiliates me, degrades me. In front of anyone and anywhere. In the beginning he told me it was one of his pills, wich I accepted as he takes about 15 pills a day, there has to be some medical interaction. But it's gotten to hard for me to handle lately.
Yesterday he was in one, and his sister wanted me to come to the races with her, but he wanted to go out to the gym with his buddy. His dad offered to babysit(we live on the complete opposite side of the city from them) but Joey pitched a fit about how he didn't want to drive across the city, how Kimmy and I(and two little boys we were taking to the races) should do it. Kimmy said no, and stuck to her guns, wich is odd with her little brother but I agreed with her. I told them I would stay home and hang out with Marlow. No problem. And it wasn't a problem, I was fine staying home. But then Joey, in front of his sister, his buddy, and the two 8 year olds, started snapping at me. Saying things like 'oh I"ll fucking do it, get the fuck dressed and get out.' or 'fuck whatever, it's not like I have anything to do, fucking lazy, don't want to take your daughter.'
First off, I have taken Marlow to the races, but it's COLD out. Freezing. She can't be out in that weather for that long. And once again I was embarassed. But I was more upset when I say the looks on his sis's and friends face. They were getting so used to it it barely bothered them anymore.
So then after the races we went straight to his parents, ya know, cuz our daughter was there. He went home. And three and a half hours after I asked him to come there, he showed up. I was upset. His dad had made a joke about how he mustn't think I was important enough to come when called. It was a joke, but it hit home. So then when he does show he makes comments like 'can I stay here tonight, I don't want to go home with the bitch.'
Then this morning it's my day to sleep in. And I have a cold so I'm extra tired. I asked him to make sure I was up by 1130am because it's my neices birthday party at noon. I woke up at noon and he was gone. Took Marlow and the phone(my phone is broken so we are working with one) and was just gone. So I have no way of even calling my brother and apologizing for saying I would be there and then standing them up. I can't believe Joey would be so inconsiderate. He said he didn't even want to go to the party but I told him I go to his family functions he could suffer through two hours of mine.
But he made sure he didn't have to go. He just snuck out and left me holding the ball. And to make it worse, he let dishes pile up in the sink, Marlow's high chair is caked in food. There are toys EVERYWHERE. Dirty clothes and garbage. He didn't kennel the dogs when he left, or let them out when he got up, so there were puddles of urine on the kitchen floor.
I'm trying to clean and blow off some steam. I don't want to snap on him in front of Marlow. But I needed to take a break because I was crying to hard to see straight.
Joey is being soooo.....mean. I just don't get it. It's a long story, but no one reads these so I have no worries about boring someone.
First he gets in these 'moods'. It's why I called off our engagment almost a year ago. He get's quiet and grumpy and he turns horrible. He has no problem making me feel bad when he's in these moods. He belittles me, humiliates me, degrades me. In front of anyone and anywhere. In the beginning he told me it was one of his pills, wich I accepted as he takes about 15 pills a day, there has to be some medical interaction. But it's gotten to hard for me to handle lately.
Yesterday he was in one, and his sister wanted me to come to the races with her, but he wanted to go out to the gym with his buddy. His dad offered to babysit(we live on the complete opposite side of the city from them) but Joey pitched a fit about how he didn't want to drive across the city, how Kimmy and I(and two little boys we were taking to the races) should do it. Kimmy said no, and stuck to her guns, wich is odd with her little brother but I agreed with her. I told them I would stay home and hang out with Marlow. No problem. And it wasn't a problem, I was fine staying home. But then Joey, in front of his sister, his buddy, and the two 8 year olds, started snapping at me. Saying things like 'oh I"ll fucking do it, get the fuck dressed and get out.' or 'fuck whatever, it's not like I have anything to do, fucking lazy, don't want to take your daughter.'
First off, I have taken Marlow to the races, but it's COLD out. Freezing. She can't be out in that weather for that long. And once again I was embarassed. But I was more upset when I say the looks on his sis's and friends face. They were getting so used to it it barely bothered them anymore.
So then after the races we went straight to his parents, ya know, cuz our daughter was there. He went home. And three and a half hours after I asked him to come there, he showed up. I was upset. His dad had made a joke about how he mustn't think I was important enough to come when called. It was a joke, but it hit home. So then when he does show he makes comments like 'can I stay here tonight, I don't want to go home with the bitch.'
Then this morning it's my day to sleep in. And I have a cold so I'm extra tired. I asked him to make sure I was up by 1130am because it's my neices birthday party at noon. I woke up at noon and he was gone. Took Marlow and the phone(my phone is broken so we are working with one) and was just gone. So I have no way of even calling my brother and apologizing for saying I would be there and then standing them up. I can't believe Joey would be so inconsiderate. He said he didn't even want to go to the party but I told him I go to his family functions he could suffer through two hours of mine.
But he made sure he didn't have to go. He just snuck out and left me holding the ball. And to make it worse, he let dishes pile up in the sink, Marlow's high chair is caked in food. There are toys EVERYWHERE. Dirty clothes and garbage. He didn't kennel the dogs when he left, or let them out when he got up, so there were puddles of urine on the kitchen floor.
I'm trying to clean and blow off some steam. I don't want to snap on him in front of Marlow. But I needed to take a break because I was crying to hard to see straight.
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Wow, seems like he really dumped a load on you. I would be furious, too. If I were you, I would leave a note and be at the folks\' house until he called. Let him do the wondering for awhile. Be sure to mention in the note all the chores you did, and what still needed doing. Having the discussion about your wake up call in front of his parents might shield you from major abuse. (I\'m passive-aggressive, in case you can\'t tell. LOL)
I can\'t say that I understand his behavior. What are the meds for... bipolar?
Let\'s hope he comes to his senses before things get much worse. Don\'t worry about boring people. This journal is for your benefit. Here is where you can safely dump the garbage.
He had a kidney transplant when he was 18, and the meds are to keep his kidney going strong. They are always messing with it, trying to get the best combo. He has suffered from depression in the past, he was hospitalized for it when he was 16 but I can\'t seem to get him to admit he may have it again.
Some days, I hate men. LOL. I\'m sure, some days, men hate women too.
I\'m not passive aggresive. When he came home I told him the plan. Just he and I. He has three weeks to shape up or I take our daughter and I ship out.
OH man he sounds like a little bit of a grouch. My DH can have a bad attitude sometimes or completely over react to the smallest thing (like missing a turn or spilling a drink) I always try and make him sound ridiculous...like are you seriously screaming at me because you missd a turn? What is the big deal...you will turn around and be back on track in a minute. Life is too short to get so angry all the time. Life is also way too short to be having to take that...to be treated like that. I hope that he does shape up...I hope he realizes that he cant be treating you like that. Let us know how it goes. BTW vent away...thats what these are for. Whether everyone reads them or nobody reads them!