I am confused about this guy I am dating.

I am confused about this guy named Dave that I am dating.  I know he had it rough when his common-in-law woman named Catherine left him after 12 years.  They were together for twelve years.  Smokey died after ten years of living together.  It hurt me a lot as well.  It doesn't mean that I don't want to get married or live common-in-law again.  I just need time to heal and settle his estate, which should be doing soon.  What I am picking up by what he is saying is that he never wants to get married and is not sure about living common-in-law!  What does that mean for us?  Does it mean he just wants to date me forever without any kind of commitment?  I am not sure if I can handle that at all.  We have only been dating for two months.  It is no big deal at the moment.  It sure hurt my feelings yesterday when he made that comment about common-in-law.  I wonder if he realizes what comes out of his mouth.  If he is commitment phobic than what I am doing with him?  We seem to have a good relationship thus far.  I am going to play it by ear.  If we are still together after one year, than I have a lot of thinking to do.  I am going to re-evaluate the relationship.  After one year, we should be able to decide if we want to stay together or not, to keep dating or not or to make a commitment or not.  At that point if Dave and I are not on the same wave length then it will have to be a mutual decision to split up.  It's what I am thinking at the moment but ask me again in one year.
I am the kind of person that needs to chew the facts and think about things a head of time before anything happens.  I do it ahead of time which can drive people crazy.  Like I am the kind of person to plan Christmas in July and not everyone wants to think that far ahead.  I am trying to plan Christmas now and people think it is still too early.  Like I said I drive peple crazy trying to plan things way ahead of time.  It is the way that I operate. 
I just like to think things thru slowly before I make up my mind one way or another.  On the bright side, I have an interview at a personnel agency this morning.  We shall see how that goes.  They have never helped me in the passed.
Good morning to everyone as it is 6:53 a.m. this fine Thursday morning.  I hope each and everyone has a good day to day and may God go with you all from Diane Baillie