Humiliated and Hurt like Hell
This is going to be a looooong post. So if you don't want to stick with it the whole way I totally understand! It's often tedious reading about someone elses woes and tragedies.
So here goes nothing....
So some back history first. My mother waited until my dad had been dead for about a year before she met her first boyfriend. They were together for two years, and it ended in disastor. So she waited another five years before seeing anyone again. No body got serious, and very rarely did we meet any of the men she went on dates with. About three years ago she met a man named Ray and this one was serious. After a year of dating they moved in together.
Let me explain Ray. My mother has been a recovering alcoholic for 16 years this July. Ray has been a practicing alcoholic for forever. My mother thought she could help him I think, but he didn't really want help. He would get drunk almost every evening, and become opinionated, and impossible to understand. I didn't like him much.
When my mother and he moved in together his ex girlfriend looked my up on facebook and started inboxing me nasty messages. About how my mother was a whore, worthless, putrid, disgusting, ugly, and all sorts of nasty things. She would also attack me, and my looks and behaviors, and my parenting skills. After her message was sent she would give it a day or two to make sure I got it then block me so that I could neither reply nor block her. Whenever the urge struck she would unblock me, send me another nasty message, and reblock me.
I learned to just ignore them no matter how hurtful there were. She was a petty woman who didn't love herself enough to leave others alone.
Now here's the hurtful part. The other day a friend of mine had some post asking a question on facebook. So I replied with my answer and a girl on there, who turned out to be Ray's ex-step daughter, unloaded on me. Right there, on this post, where everyone who was friends with my pal(and we have alot in common) could read it.
She said horrible things. Like My brother is an accused child molester and he has children he does it to as well. The truth behind that one is that when my father died, an adult family friend took it upon himself to explain to my little sister and I what rape was, what murder was, what sexual abuse was. All the horrors he thought our dad would of protected us from. My little sister got mad at my brother and called sexual abuse. She was 6. He was never convicted. It was dropped when she confessed she lied to get back at him. She didn't understand the severity of what she was saying. And there was a rift in our family from it for awhile. Even thought it was dismissed childrens services made my brother live in a foster home in a city 8 hours away for 2 years while my sister attended counselling. They have a healthy relationship now. And my brother does not touch his kids that way. I trust him with my daughter.
She said my mother was a skank who got fired from her job of 18 years for stealing food. What sort of a skid steals food? My mother got fired from her job because the bussiness was sold. The new owner fired all the older workers, hired young girls, got the place licensed and is turning it into a pub basically. My mother did not steal anything. And honestly, if she had stolen food, I would of defended her. The sort of skid who steals food is the mother or grandmother in her case, who has mouths to feed and would do anything so they didn't go hungry.
She claimed that my fiancee and I were terrible people. That anyone who knows us should get extra security. That my neice got removed from our home because it was covered in cat feces. I have one cat. He is outside almost all the time. She got taken because our home was never permanent and she was having more issues then we could deal with. She was out of control and I was only 22. I did what I could and that was that. I am not a horrible person.
She claimed that my older sister was an unfit mother, a crack addict. That was true. And I didn't deny that. But she's an alcoholic who brings strange men home every night. And she has a daughter to worry about. So who is she to throw stones?
Here is what she said word for word....
first the answer to the pals question...and then
And umm, Sue, NO OFFENCE TO YOU, but Jolene and Joey are like bottom -rung....I had NO IDEA you had people like them as friends.
If I were you, and lived at home, I'd have my parents install security.
The Jonses and their...err...what--offspring? Have been known to be trouble. You should CUT IT OFF. You don't need the stress.
And then there was this
Thank God I am awesome. My kids NEVER had to know their grandpa was a chester molester(she claims ray sexually abused her while he was with my mother in front of my mother). But Jolene, Your brother "might be"...do you leave your child with him? Sick...
My pal saved the convos but forgot to click more first so all the really bad stuff didn't get saved. It hurt. Alot. That she would first off, say these things, and that second, she would post them for all to see. She claimed it was 'freedom of speech and her opinion' therefore it wasn't slander.
I met this girl twice in the two years my mother was with Ray. I didn't say a whole lot of anything to her becuase I didn't like her. Her three year old daughter was so attention starved, and when she talked to any of us Jesse would yell and smack her. My mother and Ray let Jesse and her daughter live with them for a while because she had no where else to go. But she stole money, she drank every day all day, she refused to get a job, she would call my mother horrible names to her face and accuse her of things that were just atrocious. Finally she was kicked out, and she blamed my mum.
I blocked her. But it doesn't feel like enough. My pal deleted those messages when she saw them, but enough people had already read them. It's out there now. People think I'm a filthy pig, that my brother molests my daughter and his own, that my mother is a whore who has AIDS. The only person she didn't attack was my little sister. And they had serious words before, makes me wonder if she was drunk when she posted this. I wish I could get her kicked off of facebook...but all I can do is block her.
When her mother gets wind of this she will unblock me and the nasty messages will start again. It's been a year since my mother and Ray ended it. Why will they not leave me alone?
So here goes nothing....
So some back history first. My mother waited until my dad had been dead for about a year before she met her first boyfriend. They were together for two years, and it ended in disastor. So she waited another five years before seeing anyone again. No body got serious, and very rarely did we meet any of the men she went on dates with. About three years ago she met a man named Ray and this one was serious. After a year of dating they moved in together.
Let me explain Ray. My mother has been a recovering alcoholic for 16 years this July. Ray has been a practicing alcoholic for forever. My mother thought she could help him I think, but he didn't really want help. He would get drunk almost every evening, and become opinionated, and impossible to understand. I didn't like him much.
When my mother and he moved in together his ex girlfriend looked my up on facebook and started inboxing me nasty messages. About how my mother was a whore, worthless, putrid, disgusting, ugly, and all sorts of nasty things. She would also attack me, and my looks and behaviors, and my parenting skills. After her message was sent she would give it a day or two to make sure I got it then block me so that I could neither reply nor block her. Whenever the urge struck she would unblock me, send me another nasty message, and reblock me.
I learned to just ignore them no matter how hurtful there were. She was a petty woman who didn't love herself enough to leave others alone.
Now here's the hurtful part. The other day a friend of mine had some post asking a question on facebook. So I replied with my answer and a girl on there, who turned out to be Ray's ex-step daughter, unloaded on me. Right there, on this post, where everyone who was friends with my pal(and we have alot in common) could read it.
She said horrible things. Like My brother is an accused child molester and he has children he does it to as well. The truth behind that one is that when my father died, an adult family friend took it upon himself to explain to my little sister and I what rape was, what murder was, what sexual abuse was. All the horrors he thought our dad would of protected us from. My little sister got mad at my brother and called sexual abuse. She was 6. He was never convicted. It was dropped when she confessed she lied to get back at him. She didn't understand the severity of what she was saying. And there was a rift in our family from it for awhile. Even thought it was dismissed childrens services made my brother live in a foster home in a city 8 hours away for 2 years while my sister attended counselling. They have a healthy relationship now. And my brother does not touch his kids that way. I trust him with my daughter.
She said my mother was a skank who got fired from her job of 18 years for stealing food. What sort of a skid steals food? My mother got fired from her job because the bussiness was sold. The new owner fired all the older workers, hired young girls, got the place licensed and is turning it into a pub basically. My mother did not steal anything. And honestly, if she had stolen food, I would of defended her. The sort of skid who steals food is the mother or grandmother in her case, who has mouths to feed and would do anything so they didn't go hungry.
She claimed that my fiancee and I were terrible people. That anyone who knows us should get extra security. That my neice got removed from our home because it was covered in cat feces. I have one cat. He is outside almost all the time. She got taken because our home was never permanent and she was having more issues then we could deal with. She was out of control and I was only 22. I did what I could and that was that. I am not a horrible person.
She claimed that my older sister was an unfit mother, a crack addict. That was true. And I didn't deny that. But she's an alcoholic who brings strange men home every night. And she has a daughter to worry about. So who is she to throw stones?
Here is what she said word for word....
first the answer to the pals question...and then
And umm, Sue, NO OFFENCE TO YOU, but Jolene and Joey are like bottom -rung....I had NO IDEA you had people like them as friends.
If I were you, and lived at home, I'd have my parents install security.
The Jonses and their...err...what--offspring? Have been known to be trouble. You should CUT IT OFF. You don't need the stress.
And then there was this
Thank God I am awesome. My kids NEVER had to know their grandpa was a chester molester(she claims ray sexually abused her while he was with my mother in front of my mother). But Jolene, Your brother "might be"...do you leave your child with him? Sick...
My pal saved the convos but forgot to click more first so all the really bad stuff didn't get saved. It hurt. Alot. That she would first off, say these things, and that second, she would post them for all to see. She claimed it was 'freedom of speech and her opinion' therefore it wasn't slander.
I met this girl twice in the two years my mother was with Ray. I didn't say a whole lot of anything to her becuase I didn't like her. Her three year old daughter was so attention starved, and when she talked to any of us Jesse would yell and smack her. My mother and Ray let Jesse and her daughter live with them for a while because she had no where else to go. But she stole money, she drank every day all day, she refused to get a job, she would call my mother horrible names to her face and accuse her of things that were just atrocious. Finally she was kicked out, and she blamed my mum.
I blocked her. But it doesn't feel like enough. My pal deleted those messages when she saw them, but enough people had already read them. It's out there now. People think I'm a filthy pig, that my brother molests my daughter and his own, that my mother is a whore who has AIDS. The only person she didn't attack was my little sister. And they had serious words before, makes me wonder if she was drunk when she posted this. I wish I could get her kicked off of facebook...but all I can do is block her.
When her mother gets wind of this she will unblock me and the nasty messages will start again. It's been a year since my mother and Ray ended it. Why will they not leave me alone?
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