how to find a pet, how to find a mate : )

I realized a long time ago, that when choosing an animal - don't just go for the one who seems

the most flashy and captivates you. Go for the one who chooses you, while you stand in front of them.

My birds and my cats both did this. The relationships with them are the things I am so grateful for and made happy by.

I wonder if the same goes for significant others? Flashiness might say one thing and be an oversimplified

attraction - but maybe let the it, the choice, be both

ways - maybe let someone choose you and then you choose them as well. It's been so long and seems

a total miracle since it's happened but it's great when it does. :) xx I guess this is kind of messed up

for me to say - but what I mean is that for a while there I would really love the total glamorous people

- looks good, must be good - but honestly that stuff I've grown out of - I'd like to be with a real person, I guess

that's also kind of a blanket statement, I want someone who I can love both and live with - knowing

who they are and being ok about their light and dark sides - and hopefully they are with mine too - and

still set on living a positive constructive productive good life. 

For some reason it's hard to write about and can seem an oversimplification but maybe there's a kernel

or truth there.