How do you do it? Keep on keeping on I mean.

How do you keep on keeping on.  It sucks.  I lost my beloved and very much loved Smokey on November 15, 2009 the day that changed my entire life.  It sucks.
There are more widows or divorcees at my age of 57 years than compared to any available men.  This sucks greatly.  How does one meet someone my age?  At church, the good guys are all married.  There doesn't seem to be  any decent single men my age there.  The odd one is not my type.  In my past, I dated or got involved with alcoholics.  I don't want to do this after the love of my life and a great man Smokey died.  The reason christian woman go outside the church to find someone is that at 57 years of age you cannot find a decent man anywhere.  I don't know where they are hiding or if they are alive.  Come out come out wherever you are!  
My brother Don has single friends but in his circle they all have mental problems.  Its not the direction I want to go in for myself.
Even my girlfriend in Osoyoos has a problem meeting someone as it is a very small town.  You meet the same people again and again.  There is no new flesh so to speak.
It all sucks from Diane B.