How do I stop the fear?
Things are improving. She wants to spend time with me and smiles a lot. She is transferring her money from her bank account back into "ours." She is trying to sub lease the apartment she has that she never moved into. I should be ecstatic. Why can't I get rid of this fear? ... Waiting for the next shoe to drop and she tells me she can't pretend any longer. She wants to spend time with her brother today. I have always supported that, but anytime she spends a lot of time with him she becomes distant. She has not told the people who know about the separation that she's decided not to separate after all. Right now I need to show her I am confident and am not holding anything against her for what she has been feeling and going through. But it is hard when I am insecure that she will change her mind again. I really don't think anyone will have answers for my questions but I need to share my feelings.
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Have never been there so not much I can say except to hang in there and hope everything works out for you my friend.
Sounds like things are headed in the right direction. I understand you feeling scared about her changing her mind. We have all been there and told our stories time and again here. I think it is natural to feel that way. You haven\'t regained complete trust yet. Give it some time and maybe you will have a few minor set backs but it is not over until it\'s over. Stay strong and confident and vent to us if you are feeling insecure. Good luck. I am praying for you.
Thanks so much for the encouragement, friends. She really seems to be trying, and I guess it will just take some time to build that trust, again. I need to focus on appreciating the blessing of another chance at this. i feel I\'ve had to be so strong up to now, that getting a little relief has actually made me falter, somewhat.
Thanks for the prayers. You are in mine, too.