frustrated with the style of communication here at times
the boundaries here at the monastery can be very rigid.
the focus on the rules more than empathy and communication is mind numbing.
I learned a really interesting coping mechanism though, yesterday. It just involves interpreting things differently that are coming at you. Not everyone can go to the place emotionally that you need them to go to for your own being... for your own well-being. And you can’t always go to the place emotionally that another person may need you to go to for their well-being. We can try and yet I know I just have my limits though I do try. My understanding now is that when I “connect” with people it doesn’t always show in the same ways, even though it’s there. It’s just a matter of being ready to know it. Maybe it’s a form of emotional intelligence practices or just part of acceptance in life here at the monastery. And life in general. There’s a lot of this type of thing living in community here.
A very different standard for empathy for very exacting folks, yet paradoxically freedom found in the structure here.
In a lot of ways I’m frustrated with myself and my limits too.
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I realize though I have to keep in the mix of things, it’s not healthy to close myself off, though it’s helped me see certain things about my life.
It’s also maybe delusory that you would get the same thing from each person though I desperately feel dejected at those moments of discord
I really need to get a mental health decoder ring. I change so much mentally that I find myself like square one a lot with understanding human relationships.
One word Mark: Perception
Thanks Mary Louise
i find communications to be frustrating wherever the need arises. i often think communications are easier when the communicators don't speak the same language. the focus shifts from words to needs.
Thanks Arfie!
A lot of humans are troubled with communication right now. All these tech platforms and all used by different populations and generations.
While the monastery may raise other distinctions, know that it’s something humans are universally adapting and fidgeting alongside you!
Thanks Nikki!