Frustrated with dumb people
So I jsut had a call from a friend but I think of her more as an acquaintance anymore. I distanced myself from her awhile ago because I don't have the strength to be someone else's cheerleader. I made the mistake of answering her phone call a wk ago and now she calls me more. I get it she is trying to help and all but really it boils down to me lifting her up or whatever and she is fishing for info on the situation.
So today she calls and I was like ok I will answer it and try to be a good person and friend. Of course it was priamarily about her. She interviewed for a new job position within her company (She has a job) and she didn't feel like she did a good job or whatever. So I went through the whole flippin routine of you have to think positive in order for good things to happen. She asked how our anniversary was and I was like it was fun because we just spent time together. Ya know quiet evening and all. meanwhile I am thinking in my head why the hell am I having to boost her morale up when my whole life is gong ot be turned upside down in 3 days. I wanted to scream, DON'T BOTHER ME WITH STUPID SHIT. I DON'T HAVE THE ENERGY TO LOOK AFTER YOU; I AM ALREADY WORRYING ABOUT MYSELF, MY HUSBAND, MY IN-LAWS AND MY FAMILY. I DON'T HAVE THE ENERGY TO BARE YOUR SHIT TOO."
I feel horrible about it to a point and so I made an excuse to get off the phone because I really couldn't pretend to give a damn anymore.
Over the weekend we went to the party on Saturday. It was pretty fun. Everyone wanted to get into a deep as conversation about the whole thing and it was making me tired and just upset about it. I mean can I just escape so I am not having to talk about it because I am already thinking about it nonstop. I had a friend of mine who was like well you should go back to school. Well easy for him to say he has work. I don't want to go back to school it isn't for me. Yes I will struggle but ya know what I will most likely die if I don't have some type of struggling going on in my life. It is a libra thing. LOL
I let it roll off my back and was like I have to do what I need to do and right now I ne3ed to make money so I can keep my house and help take care of my family. But the families and including my husband when he goes in. So don't give me load of BS that going to college will miraculously cure everything cause guess what it won't. It will however increase the already large amount of debt I currently have.
GRRRRR other than that I am hanging in there as best as I can while we are trying to stay cool in this hot hot hot weather we are having. Thanks for llistening I kinda feel better. Who knew I could go on some major tangent oh wait I am a writer lol of course I can. LOL
So today she calls and I was like ok I will answer it and try to be a good person and friend. Of course it was priamarily about her. She interviewed for a new job position within her company (She has a job) and she didn't feel like she did a good job or whatever. So I went through the whole flippin routine of you have to think positive in order for good things to happen. She asked how our anniversary was and I was like it was fun because we just spent time together. Ya know quiet evening and all. meanwhile I am thinking in my head why the hell am I having to boost her morale up when my whole life is gong ot be turned upside down in 3 days. I wanted to scream, DON'T BOTHER ME WITH STUPID SHIT. I DON'T HAVE THE ENERGY TO LOOK AFTER YOU; I AM ALREADY WORRYING ABOUT MYSELF, MY HUSBAND, MY IN-LAWS AND MY FAMILY. I DON'T HAVE THE ENERGY TO BARE YOUR SHIT TOO."
I feel horrible about it to a point and so I made an excuse to get off the phone because I really couldn't pretend to give a damn anymore.
Over the weekend we went to the party on Saturday. It was pretty fun. Everyone wanted to get into a deep as conversation about the whole thing and it was making me tired and just upset about it. I mean can I just escape so I am not having to talk about it because I am already thinking about it nonstop. I had a friend of mine who was like well you should go back to school. Well easy for him to say he has work. I don't want to go back to school it isn't for me. Yes I will struggle but ya know what I will most likely die if I don't have some type of struggling going on in my life. It is a libra thing. LOL
I let it roll off my back and was like I have to do what I need to do and right now I ne3ed to make money so I can keep my house and help take care of my family. But the families and including my husband when he goes in. So don't give me load of BS that going to college will miraculously cure everything cause guess what it won't. It will however increase the already large amount of debt I currently have.
GRRRRR other than that I am hanging in there as best as I can while we are trying to stay cool in this hot hot hot weather we are having. Thanks for llistening I kinda feel better. Who knew I could go on some major tangent oh wait I am a writer lol of course I can. LOL
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Uuugggrr i have so been where you are! I had one so called mate who rang everyday when i finally toled her where my man is it drove me nuts and wracked the frindship coz i end up yelling at her. Yes it was the same thing all about her and thats more then a little hard to deal with.
You did the right thing leting it rolle off your back.
Thanks such it is just a pain. And I swear it gets more and more difficult. Sometimes I think people jsut want me to yell at them for being thoughtless but I try not to lol.
Well they are idiots. People that are only interested in whining about their own SH....can jump in the river. I have one too. Only lately I wrote emails to her telling her how sick to death I am of just being her friend, always running to her aid, always listening. I told her to have a friend is to be one, and she hasn\'t been for a long time. I told her I don\'t want to walk in her door and get bombarded with her problems, or to read her mail because she is too lazy or too stupid to do it herself.
The other day she called me that she was getting a low income apartment and just going to hand her house keys over to some guy from an ad. AND that she was moving in 4 days, and could I find someone with a truck to move her. OMG I told her before if she was even thinking about this to get off her lazy ass and start packing and getting rid of things. I walked into her house day after day and she is either napping or watching dvd\'s. She wanted us to just come there and start packing her crap. So I told her, gotta go, I am busy, and you can just figure it out yourself.
Right after I wrote her many emails telling her I am depressed too, I have problems I can\'t get fixed fast too, and I couldn\'t handle all of hers, since she does nothing to help herself. I walked into her house and she throws this piece of mail in my face, and says, Read this, I don\'t get it. I said, did you even try to read it. What the hell is wrong with your brain? And furthermore, I already told you I HAVE MY OWN PROBLEMS, and it would be nice if you asked about me once in awhile.
She told our friend that I was being mean to her. And she wasn\'t answering my emails. GOOOOOD!!! Then today I get a text that said, You were right again, I don\'t want to move. I bet its more like she couldn\'t find anyone to help her, and couldn\'t find a truck
I told her if she found someone with a truck she should have money to give them for gas, and she doesn\'t, so why should she expect people to come pack her crap, move it and use their money for gas.
Other friend called today and asked if I had went to talk to her yet. Oh hell no I told her, and I am not going to. I am done. I am sick of her, and I just don\'t care. I don\'t have my visits yet, I don\'t have Emmy and I am a bitch and it wouldn\'t be a good day to talk to that lazy, stupid thing. She didn\'t used to be. Diane says, well you should go talk to her.
I then reminded her that stupid CIndy got gas vouchers from Salvation Army, lied and told them she had to go to work. She has no job. I had said to her, gee, now that you have gas, you would think you could come see me sometimes, I run to you every time you need your butt wiped practically. SHE SAYS.... I have to save my gas, I can\'t waste it.
Oh I was furious. I have ran there so much in the last year, with her depression, with her dumbness, and because she had surgery. I took her places, I took her out to eat, I bought her drinks, then she stole money from my purse at the bar. WASTE money to come see me, well she can kiss my patooty.
These people that do not use their head, that can\'t console us and be our friend as we are theirs, do not deserve us as friends. You have way to much to deal with now. Screw the ones that are idiots. That\'s my new motto.
I told the other friend, YOU go see her, YOU go talk to her, I am done. She said, Uh no, that\'s why I quit going there too. I told her, well then, why should I? Oh yea, she loves to play the Im going to kill myself card. Oh well, been there done that, she uses that so much I could puke.
When she text me today that she don\'t want to move, I wanted to ask, is it just that you don\'t get up off your ass and do what needs to be done to move, or what? But no, I just said, It isn\'t my decision whether you move or not, but I wanted you to think and not just react. You would regret it forever.
She never responded.
Now I am waiting for that call that annoys me when he don\'t call at the times he is supposed to. I went off on him in a letter this weekend about alot of things, like the losing my visits and it was his fault, and him always hounding me to help that horrible man, or even that I didn\'t think he wanted me to visit or he would be pushing for answers. So hopefully he knows I am just stressed out, or he will be pissed and NOT call for awhile.
I asked him to quit his lame 44 dollar a month job. They work him to death all day, he gets tired, sleeps and ignores me. With no visits, he best be calling as he used to.
I also laid into him about other past things. Oh yes, I am bitchy lately. I sent my visit thing in 27 days ago, still nothing.
Oh wisconsin I wish I could be there to help comfort you. You are going through a lot of stuff and you are right people who aren\'t good friends don\'t deserve to be our friends. The time we waste on them we could be doing something else. It is just too much energy to worry about it. Hugs to you and hope things get better soon ^_^
Thanks so much. I HUG you back a hundred times. It\'s ok, I am going to sleep soon. Took headache pills just to sleep. He called finally. There was a huge fight while they were eating. They got sent to their rooms. Black and Mexican gang members. Safer in his room. Then they got let back to eat 10 at a time. He said he hates that crap. Such stupid fights they have, over nothing. At least he is ok. I will be fine, never fear, my friend.
Glad he is ok and ya I can imagine how scary that can be.... happy that all is as well as it can be ^__^