Finally admit why I am on here... Why do I not count? Why are my emotions not important to HER?
I joined after stewing over a conversation my Mom and I had a month ago.
My Brother bumped into a fellow softball teammate that also plays with my Brother's Father (my former Stepfather of 19 years and my abuser). The teammate chatted it up with Donnie (Stepfather) asking has he seen my brother and why don't they play on the same team. Donnie said, "fuck that little bitch"! Well, the teammate told my Brother.....
Keep in mind Donnie is upset that my Brother did not call to wish him a happy birthday in August and it was January.... he is the type of father that expects you to call him he's not calling you to say hi you need to do it. A complete jerk. That doesn't need the title of Dad!
Well, my brother told my Mom who then called me to vent and bitch. I was fine at this point... she even said Im going to make sure I give every creditor his address so they can go after him (since his credit 8+ score went down the second he left my Mom lol). She wanted a sort of pay back for hurting my brothers feeling... my 23 year old brothers feeling ugh! She then out of no where said you should report him we should see what we can do to report him.... meaning my abuse.
You see in the state of California as far as I understand a child that doesn't report sexual abuse can report it at anytime because they were a minor at the time and there is no statue of limitations... on top of that 4+ years ago someone wanted to talk to me about my abuse that I tried to report but, later took back cause my Mom asked me to for fear we would be taken away and sent to different homes like my cousin had happen to her. So, back then my Mom said she would not give my name that I had just had my first child and needed to be left alone. I guess he had a complaint by his soon to be wife for "terrorist threats" on her answering machine and got one year in jail.... he was beat the day before release because they heard about rape charges that were dropped. At 18 his then girlfriend who was mad about not getting her way over something told her parents she was raped. He was handcuffed and was almost processed when she took it back... but, the jail mates didn't see it like that and jumped him. He deserved it!!! I thought about filing a report but, then my family is dragged into it and I don't want some people to know.... God knows and that's all that counts. He'll gets his in the end.
But, for my Mom to want to get even over him calling her son a "fucking little bitch"? While me being molested for 2 years and emotional abused and groped later as a teen.... that didn't constitute as something that needed to be filed.... No, she sold a town home and bought a house 6 months after he grabbed my chest??? It sickened me and I sobbed after I hung up.... I just can't believe how she is so different with me than she is my Brother. It hurts so much that I am numb over it lately.... how does she just block what happened out like it's no big deal or never happened. I want a sorry and reason why????
I still think I need to vent to my husband over the next two weeks I'm going to weigh the pros and cons of it. I think I should sit down with him and talk..... this is what has been on my mind and this is why I have seemed so high strung or depressed....
I just need to know if I'm doing the right thing?
My Brother bumped into a fellow softball teammate that also plays with my Brother's Father (my former Stepfather of 19 years and my abuser). The teammate chatted it up with Donnie (Stepfather) asking has he seen my brother and why don't they play on the same team. Donnie said, "fuck that little bitch"! Well, the teammate told my Brother.....
Keep in mind Donnie is upset that my Brother did not call to wish him a happy birthday in August and it was January.... he is the type of father that expects you to call him he's not calling you to say hi you need to do it. A complete jerk. That doesn't need the title of Dad!
Well, my brother told my Mom who then called me to vent and bitch. I was fine at this point... she even said Im going to make sure I give every creditor his address so they can go after him (since his credit 8+ score went down the second he left my Mom lol). She wanted a sort of pay back for hurting my brothers feeling... my 23 year old brothers feeling ugh! She then out of no where said you should report him we should see what we can do to report him.... meaning my abuse.
You see in the state of California as far as I understand a child that doesn't report sexual abuse can report it at anytime because they were a minor at the time and there is no statue of limitations... on top of that 4+ years ago someone wanted to talk to me about my abuse that I tried to report but, later took back cause my Mom asked me to for fear we would be taken away and sent to different homes like my cousin had happen to her. So, back then my Mom said she would not give my name that I had just had my first child and needed to be left alone. I guess he had a complaint by his soon to be wife for "terrorist threats" on her answering machine and got one year in jail.... he was beat the day before release because they heard about rape charges that were dropped. At 18 his then girlfriend who was mad about not getting her way over something told her parents she was raped. He was handcuffed and was almost processed when she took it back... but, the jail mates didn't see it like that and jumped him. He deserved it!!! I thought about filing a report but, then my family is dragged into it and I don't want some people to know.... God knows and that's all that counts. He'll gets his in the end.
But, for my Mom to want to get even over him calling her son a "fucking little bitch"? While me being molested for 2 years and emotional abused and groped later as a teen.... that didn't constitute as something that needed to be filed.... No, she sold a town home and bought a house 6 months after he grabbed my chest??? It sickened me and I sobbed after I hung up.... I just can't believe how she is so different with me than she is my Brother. It hurts so much that I am numb over it lately.... how does she just block what happened out like it's no big deal or never happened. I want a sorry and reason why????
I still think I need to vent to my husband over the next two weeks I'm going to weigh the pros and cons of it. I think I should sit down with him and talk..... this is what has been on my mind and this is why I have seemed so high strung or depressed....
I just need to know if I'm doing the right thing?
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