Emotionally Defeated

I find myself in a state of disarray. I don't know what to do. I'm caught in between a bipolar mother and a son who has ODD & ADD. I do not love the situation I'm in.  I have so much love for my son but he treats me like a doormat. I don't want to enable him but he bullies me and I feel I have a terrorist living amidst us. 

Since he turned 14, puberty came with a vengeance. He has hormonal rages and moments of irrational and illogical behaviour.  Maybe this is all part & parcel of growing up but the incessant need to be with friends, the addiction to screen time and the overall disrespect we get are hard to take. 

He shows blatant disregard for us, his parents & his brother and it has not been an easy road to haul. We are never doing anything right. It's infuriating. I wish I didn't have to live with this. Everyday I wish there was an answer and that he would mature into this beautiful human being. He's a monster to us. We give him positive reinforcement but we ended up. more negative about his actions and feelings toward us.

We are exhausted. We need respite.  Help me get through another day.