Down hill further
Today I received a phone all from a person at the Board of Education inquiring about information for our ES. Evidently he hasn't updated his info and his phone is out of service. They wanted to know where our oldest GD is living? What a strange question. Of course ES tells us nothing. I explained briefly that I am not on his call list and he isn't speaking to me. I told her where he now works since he didn't update that. She said she would call the Guardian Ad Lightem (don't know how to spell that term) no need for a Guardian that I know of. I called where he works and left a message to call the school board. He returned my call and ranted at me that I was interfering - this is none of my business. Sorry but the welfare of my GC are a concern. Do you think I should call DYFS since he just hung up on me to make sure the kids are ok or just let the school handle it? Thanks. Of course the GC are the innocent victims.
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I\'d let the school handle it.
Yes, you are an abused grandparent
I\'m sorry, dear, but you just pray and trust God. ((Hugs))
I would call back whoever called you and tell them you\'re concerned and ask why they were wondering where the gd is. Maybe there was just a simple mix up in paperwork, but if there\'s something serious you have a right to know.
You were really put in a predictament. It seems like it is a game of cat and mouse with your ES. If I was you, I would be short and sweet with anyone who calls and tell them that you are unable to help them and stay away from your son. You are just giving him fuel to attack you. I say stay out of the line of fire until he can be more civil. IMO
Thank you all so much for your concern and definitely good advice. I will call the school and see if they will tell me anything further. I think I have a right to know if something is amiss with this situation since they called me. Yes, I am in constant prayer that God take care of all the GC. No more communication with ES either. I told him early yesterday that I was done and he knows where we are. I am concerned for GC and cannot do much about it except to give ES more fuel and chances to bully me. That seems to be his way of treating me. I refuse to be bullied any further and I am taking control and protecting myself. No more and I mean it. I am done.
Dear Why: I wouldn\'t worry too much. I worked in the school system years ago. The policy was to call the house when a child was out sick. So it could be something as simple as this.
I\'m sad you have to go thru the stress from bullying. I always think that they love us but they have their own stress. I\'m happy you\'re backing out til he decides what\'s truly in his heart and makes a change for the better. I\'m all for no contact when they say that.
As long as the grands, or at least the older ones, have your phone number and address, they can call you if they\'re allowed, or if they want. After that, please just enjoy your about to be very busy life... it\'s going to be super fun and you deserve every second of happiness.
and... don\'t look at FB, let him come searching for your page .. lol!! xo