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Here is a list of feelings and their needs that might help you to work. Attacked - Primary Feelings -Scared, Angry Underlying Needs - Safety, Respect Belittled – Primary Feelings - Indignant, Distressed, Tense, Embarrassed, Outraged Underlying Needs - Respect, Autonomy, To Be Seen, Acknowledgement, Appreciation Blamed - Primary Feelings - Angry, Scared, Antagonistic, Bewildered, Hurt Underlying Needs - Fairness, Justice, Understanding Betrayed – Primary Feelings - Stunned, Outraged, Hurt, Disappointed Underlying Needs - Trust, Dependability, Honesty, Commitment, Clarity Boxed In- Primary Feelings - Frustrated, Scared, Anxious Autonomy, Choice, Freedom, Self-EfficacyUnderlying Needs - Coerced Angry, Frustrated, Scared, Anxious, Autonomy, Choice, Freedom, Self Efficacy Criticized – Primary Feelings - Humiliated, Irritated, Scared, Anxious, Embarrassed Underlying Needs - Understanding, Acknowledgement, Recognition Disrespected- Primary Feelings - Furious, Hurt, Embarrassed, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Respect, Trust, Acknowledgement Distrusted- Primary Feelings - Hurt, Sad, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Honesty, Authenticity, Integrity, Trust Harassed – Primary Feelings - Angry, Aggravated, Pressured, Frightened, Exasperated Underlying Needs - Respect, Consideration, Ease Hassle- Primary Feelings - Irritated, Irked, Distressed, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Autonomy, Ease, Calm, Space Insulted- Primary Feelings - Angry, Embarrassed, Incensed Underlying Needs - Respect, Consideration, Acknowledgement, Recognition Interrupted- Primary Feelings - Irritated, Hurt, Resentful Underlying Needs - Respect, Consideration, To Be Heard Intimidated- Primary Feelings - Frightened, Scared, Vulnerable Underlying Needs - Safety, Power, Self-Efficacy, Independence Left Out- Primary Feelings - Sad, Lonely, Anxious Underlying Needs - Belonging, Community, Connection, To Be Seen Manipulated - Primary Feelings - Resentful, Vulnerable, Sad, Angry Underlying Needs - Autonomy, Consideration, Choice, Power Misunderstood- Primary Feelings - Upset, Dismayed, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Understanding, To Be Heard, Clarity Overworked- Primary Feelings - Angry, Tired, Frustrated, Resentful Underlying Needs - Respect, Consideration, Rest, Caring, Ease Pressured - Primary Feelings - Overwhelmed, Anxious, Resentful Underlying Needs - Relaxation, Ease, Clarity, Space, Consideration Rejected- Primary Feelings - Hurt, Scared, Angry, Defiant Underlying Needs - Belonging, Connection, Acknowledgment Taken Advantage Of- Primary Feelings - Angry, Powerless, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Autonomy, Power, Trust, Choice, Connection, Acknowledgment Taken For Granted- Primary Feelings - Hurt, Disappointed, Angry Underlying Needs - Appreciation, Acknowledgement, Recognition, Consideration
Tricked- Primary Feelings- Indignant, Embarrassed, Furious Underlying Needs - Integrity, Honesty, Trust Unappreciated - Primary Feelings -Sad, Hurt, Frustrated, Irritated Underlying Needs - Appreciation, Respect, Acknowledgement Unsupported - Primary Feelings -Sad, Hurt, Resentful Underlying Needs - Support, Understanding Violated- Primary Feelings -Outraged, Agitated, Anxious, Sad Underlying Needs - Safety, Trust, Space, Respect
Here is a list of feelings and their needs that might help you to work. Attacked - Primary Feelings -Scared, Angry Underlying Needs - Safety, Respect Belittled – Primary Feelings - Indignant, Distressed, Tense, Embarrassed, Outraged Underlying Needs - Respect, Autonomy, To Be Seen, Acknowledgement, Appreciation Blamed - Primary Feelings - Angry, Scared, Antagonistic, Bewildered, Hurt Underlying Needs - Fairness, Justice, Understanding Betrayed – Primary Feelings - Stunned, Outraged, Hurt, Disappointed Underlying Needs - Trust, Dependability, Honesty, Commitment, Clarity Boxed In- Primary Feelings - Frustrated, Scared, Anxious Autonomy, Choice, Freedom, Self-EfficacyUnderlying Needs - Coerced Angry, Frustrated, Scared, Anxious, Autonomy, Choice, Freedom, Self Efficacy Criticized – Primary Feelings - Humiliated, Irritated, Scared, Anxious, Embarrassed Underlying Needs - Understanding, Acknowledgement, Recognition Disrespected- Primary Feelings - Furious, Hurt, Embarrassed, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Respect, Trust, Acknowledgement Distrusted- Primary Feelings - Hurt, Sad, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Honesty, Authenticity, Integrity, Trust Harassed – Primary Feelings - Angry, Aggravated, Pressured, Frightened, Exasperated Underlying Needs - Respect, Consideration, Ease Hassle- Primary Feelings - Irritated, Irked, Distressed, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Autonomy, Ease, Calm, Space Insulted- Primary Feelings - Angry, Embarrassed, Incensed Underlying Needs - Respect, Consideration, Acknowledgement, Recognition Interrupted- Primary Feelings - Irritated, Hurt, Resentful Underlying Needs - Respect, Consideration, To Be Heard Intimidated- Primary Feelings - Frightened, Scared, Vulnerable Underlying Needs - Safety, Power, Self-Efficacy, Independence Left Out- Primary Feelings - Sad, Lonely, Anxious Underlying Needs - Belonging, Community, Connection, To Be Seen Manipulated - Primary Feelings - Resentful, Vulnerable, Sad, Angry Underlying Needs - Autonomy, Consideration, Choice, Power Misunderstood- Primary Feelings - Upset, Dismayed, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Understanding, To Be Heard, Clarity Overworked- Primary Feelings - Angry, Tired, Frustrated, Resentful Underlying Needs - Respect, Consideration, Rest, Caring, Ease Pressured - Primary Feelings - Overwhelmed, Anxious, Resentful Underlying Needs - Relaxation, Ease, Clarity, Space, Consideration Rejected- Primary Feelings - Hurt, Scared, Angry, Defiant Underlying Needs - Belonging, Connection, Acknowledgment Taken Advantage Of- Primary Feelings - Angry, Powerless, Frustrated Underlying Needs - Autonomy, Power, Trust, Choice, Connection, Acknowledgment Taken For Granted- Primary Feelings - Hurt, Disappointed, Angry Underlying Needs - Appreciation, Acknowledgement, Recognition, Consideration
Tricked- Primary Feelings- Indignant, Embarrassed, Furious Underlying Needs - Integrity, Honesty, Trust Unappreciated - Primary Feelings -Sad, Hurt, Frustrated, Irritated Underlying Needs - Appreciation, Respect, Acknowledgement Unsupported - Primary Feelings -Sad, Hurt, Resentful Underlying Needs - Support, Understanding Violated- Primary Feelings -Outraged, Agitated, Anxious, Sad Underlying Needs - Safety, Trust, Space, Respect
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