Dinner
I had dinner with a friend last night, he was the first person I talked to about all my problems, so I consider him a fairly close friend. He has been asking to make dinner with me for a while now, we both enjoy cooking and he's always been nice about finding higher skill level dishes that are also healthy for me, so we can enjoy the process without me having to feel guilty afterwards.
Last night he was being rather pushy about needing everything to be fried or filled with butter. When I cook, I use substitutes for all the really greasy/fattening things, and he was being very stubborn about needing everything to be butter. At the store, which I'm already not that comfortable at a store plus we were buying food which isn't super comfortable for me, he started calling me a pussy every time I suggested a healthy substitute or told him I didn't want to have everything fried. It was 'playful,' but kinda mean, because he was yelling it, and it made me feel like people were starting to stare. So I gave in and told him we could cook whatever he wants, but I'm not eating for the next couple days. He knows I used to do that, but I don't think he knows I was serious.
It's been hard for me house sitting at my parents. They went on vacation with my older and younger brothers, but I stayed home because I am taking summer classes, I have physical therapy, and I have to work on the weekends. It's been a year since I really lived at home like this, and it's hard to be alone in the place where I used to hurt myself the most. I haven't done anything, but it makes me sad and feel alone.
Last night he was being rather pushy about needing everything to be fried or filled with butter. When I cook, I use substitutes for all the really greasy/fattening things, and he was being very stubborn about needing everything to be butter. At the store, which I'm already not that comfortable at a store plus we were buying food which isn't super comfortable for me, he started calling me a pussy every time I suggested a healthy substitute or told him I didn't want to have everything fried. It was 'playful,' but kinda mean, because he was yelling it, and it made me feel like people were starting to stare. So I gave in and told him we could cook whatever he wants, but I'm not eating for the next couple days. He knows I used to do that, but I don't think he knows I was serious.
It's been hard for me house sitting at my parents. They went on vacation with my older and younger brothers, but I stayed home because I am taking summer classes, I have physical therapy, and I have to work on the weekends. It's been a year since I really lived at home like this, and it's hard to be alone in the place where I used to hurt myself the most. I haven't done anything, but it makes me sad and feel alone.
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hang in there dear, sorry to hear about how your friend was treating you at the store, calling you that was absolutely rude. sometimes my sister\'s boyfriend will joke around about something like that to me, but i try to remember that deep down i know he doesn\'t mean any harm, and it\'s hard for other people who aren\'t going through what you or myself are going through to understand really how we feel, or even more so, take the time to realize that what they\'re saying is hurtful. so i always just try to not to take it too personally. however, if it really does bother you, you could always try confronting him about it, if you\'re comfortable. it\'s worth a shot atleast. but just hang in there, and don\'t put yourself down. you seem like a strong person and i believe that you can do anything that you set your mind to. i\'m thinking of you and hoping that things improve with you and your friend
You are one classy lady! By not having a face-off with him, you have proven yourself to be the better person. Perhaps your friend is afriad that by moving onto healthier substitutes, you are leaving him behind as well. It would be great to convince that your friendship is stronger than butter-filled and deep-fried grub.
Apologies! I mean you classy person, not lady. My bad...
Thanks for the comments guys. It\'s nice to have support.
I didn\'t end up giving in to fasting today, I thought about it and decided I\'ve been doing too well for the last couple months to let this little argument ruin my recovery.
And no worries, chelseac, I\'m sure I get that a lot since there aren\'t many guys with ED on here. :p