DECISION MADE!!
Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who don’t. And beleive that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it would be easy, just that it would be worth it.
THIS QUOTE GIVES US A LOT TO PONDER. I FEEL THAT IT SPEAKS TO MY SITUATION WITH MY DAUGHTER.
YESTERDAY I MEET WITH MY THERAPIST AND REALLY HAD A GOOD TALK. I FELT A SENSE OF RELIEF AND PURPOSE WHEN I LEFT HER OFFICE. I GAVE MY DAUGHTER AN EASTER GIFT. AFTER MUCH DEBATE AND ANGUISH I DECIDED THAT IT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO. NOW I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE THINKING, " HERE SHE GOES AGAIN ENABLING THE KID." WELL, MY THERAPIST POINTED OUT THAT THIS WAS NOT TRULY ENABLING IT WAS JUST A TRADITION THAT I WANT TO KEEP ALIVE. IT ALSO SHOWS MY DAUGHTER THAT I STILL LOVE HER AND DO NOT WANT TO CUT HER COMPLETELY OUT OF MY LIFE. HOWEVER, THE GIFT GIVING WAS VERY DIFFERENT THAN THE USUAL. AS AN ONLY CHILD HER EASTER GIFTS WERE SHALL I SAY EXTRAVAGANT. SO THIS YEAR IT WAS VERY MODEST JUST A FEW ITEMS TO LET HER KNOW THAT I STILL LOVE HER.
ANYWAY, SHE OFFICIALLY MOVES TO MONCTON TODAY. I DO NOT KNOW WHERE SHE IS LIVING OR WITH WHO. I DO NOT KNOW WHEN HER JOB STARTS. I KNOW VERY LITTLE AND THAT IS PROBABLY FOR THE BEST. IF I NEED TO CNTACT HER I DO HAVE THE INTERNET AND HER PHONE.
WELL, I AM OFF TO DO HOUSEWORK. IT IS A DREARY, RAINY DAY SO IT MAKES ME WANT TO STAY IN AND CLEAN.
BE WELL. DEBBIE
THIS QUOTE GIVES US A LOT TO PONDER. I FEEL THAT IT SPEAKS TO MY SITUATION WITH MY DAUGHTER.
YESTERDAY I MEET WITH MY THERAPIST AND REALLY HAD A GOOD TALK. I FELT A SENSE OF RELIEF AND PURPOSE WHEN I LEFT HER OFFICE. I GAVE MY DAUGHTER AN EASTER GIFT. AFTER MUCH DEBATE AND ANGUISH I DECIDED THAT IT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO. NOW I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE THINKING, " HERE SHE GOES AGAIN ENABLING THE KID." WELL, MY THERAPIST POINTED OUT THAT THIS WAS NOT TRULY ENABLING IT WAS JUST A TRADITION THAT I WANT TO KEEP ALIVE. IT ALSO SHOWS MY DAUGHTER THAT I STILL LOVE HER AND DO NOT WANT TO CUT HER COMPLETELY OUT OF MY LIFE. HOWEVER, THE GIFT GIVING WAS VERY DIFFERENT THAN THE USUAL. AS AN ONLY CHILD HER EASTER GIFTS WERE SHALL I SAY EXTRAVAGANT. SO THIS YEAR IT WAS VERY MODEST JUST A FEW ITEMS TO LET HER KNOW THAT I STILL LOVE HER.
ANYWAY, SHE OFFICIALLY MOVES TO MONCTON TODAY. I DO NOT KNOW WHERE SHE IS LIVING OR WITH WHO. I DO NOT KNOW WHEN HER JOB STARTS. I KNOW VERY LITTLE AND THAT IS PROBABLY FOR THE BEST. IF I NEED TO CNTACT HER I DO HAVE THE INTERNET AND HER PHONE.
WELL, I AM OFF TO DO HOUSEWORK. IT IS A DREARY, RAINY DAY SO IT MAKES ME WANT TO STAY IN AND CLEAN.
BE WELL. DEBBIE
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I have always said let your gut and heart feeling be your guide. Now you can stop thinking about it. You did a lot of thinking about this and made the right decision that was best for you. I imagine you are relieved that you don\'t have to worry or wonder what to do. It all comes down to that fact that we are Mom\'s no matter what the situation. Easy for me to tell you what to do when I am on the outside looking in. I should have put myself in your shoes. I think I would have done the same thing you did. They are always your babies even when they are rebelling. My father used to call me, rebel without a cause. Oh well we are who we are. Or should I say \"Born This Way\". Lady GaGa. Love you Naomi xo
I\'m glad you reached a decision that you feel good about. Now you can stop worrying (actualy that whole time before the decision is reached just exhausts me and once it\'s done I feel like a weight has been lifted).
We are still enjoying sunshine but I\'ve had the baby so not been able to get out and do yard work. There is rumors of clouds and possibley rain by the end of the week but I\'m so hoping they are wrong since our driveway is still filled wiht little streams of runoff and feels like I\'m walking in bog land.
i too am happy that you arew doing what you can live with.. i dont know if i could cut my son out of my life either.. i rethought my journal comment after i wrote it. and i think you are doing the right thing..its been raining and crummy here also.. i just wish the sun would shine and spring would get here already so i can play in the dirt ..i hope you have a good week. hugs ..love marie
I\'m glad you talked it over with your therapist. It sounds like you made a good choice with the gift. And it is your choice, one that will make it easier for you and lets her know you do still care. Well done.
Rainy here, too....hoping for some sun.