DD31's visit
So, no phone call from DD31...even AFTER I asked her on Friday to call me and let me know what days I needed to take off from work when she's here. I thought by putting it that way that she'd call. At this point, I'm about ready to tell her to just "have a good visit" and not see her at all. I still believe that she didn't like what I had to say in an email I wrote her 2 months ago regarding where she stays and being fair to both her parents. I'm ready to draw the line in the sand.
Hard to believe from someone over 30.
Hard to believe from someone over 30.
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I\'m sorry (((Hugs)))
There\'s no magic number for maturity. I have relatives in their 50\'s and 60\'s who still behave like that. There\'s nothing you can do. I think you are wise to move on and not waste time waiting for what might or might not happen. I\'m sorry her behavior is so frustrating and disappointing. ((hugs))
Thanks for the hugs, friends. I, too, have a friend who is 50 who is like this as well. I absolutely do not understand it. What ever happened to \"treat others as you want to be treated?\" It\'s really that simple, isnt it?
Didn\'t you write that she has a lot of narcissistic tendencies? She may be setting this up to make you the bad one in her mind. I would write her back and say ....Sorry since I haven\'t heard from you I made alternate plans. Then say no more. She definitely knows what sets you off.So don\'t go in that direction.
sorry...I think what I would do would be simply to not reach out any more. If she really wants to see you she will make contact. And, if it\'s not convenient for you, then let her know it\'s not going to work. She will know that if she had planned ahead as requested you would have worked your schedule around hers. But, not being given that opportunity, you should not stop your life just in case she happens to want to see you. You deserve more respect than that.
Thank you, everyone. That is exactly what I\'m going to do. No more contact. And, it is these things that makes dh dislike my children. No respect. I kept all this from dh, but how sad that I can\'t discuss my frustrations with my best friend knowing it will just cause him to dislike them even more. :( Thank you all for being here for me.