Dave suffers from Erectile Dysfunction at 47 years.

Dave suffers from Erectile Dysfunction at 47 years of age.  He is a young man.  Last night was the worst for him.  We tried seven times.  I can see the sad look in his eyes this morning.  It really bothers him.  This was the worst ever.  We have never had this kind of bad experience before now.  I don't know what the matter is either.  He says when he thinks of work it lowers the libido.  I don't know if that is true or not.  I asked if it was me but he says no.  He gets excited but can't maintain.  There are treatments out there and one of Dave's friends recommended something.  Dave has not gone there yet but I think he is thinking of it.  Two weeks ago we actually had intercourse 3 times during the week.  In all the 3 months we have been together, we have only had intercourse 6 times.  Dave has other ways of being the best lover ever.  I enjoy Dave's company.  He is the best lover I have ever had in my life.  I have told him that many times as well, which is good for his ego.  I don't know what was going on with Dave last night but it was the worst experience ever and it is getting him down.  I see the sadness in his face.  There is nothing I can do about it either.  I just don't want to see the sadness in his eyes and that he might want to avoid me.  I couldn't bear that at all.  Dave is such a wonderful human being and gentle soul.  I am lucky and blessed by God that He brought us together.  It's funny that Smokey was 7 years older than me and never had that kind of problem.  He was all man.  Both Dave and Smokey are macho men or a man's man.  Last night with Dave really hit the core of his machoness and hurt him inside.  It is the worst thing for a man's ego.  I just have no cure.  Dave knows where to go for help but so far has not pushed that button.  I can't do more than what I am doing.  I always tell him it's okay and tomorrow is another day.  I just needed to let this kind of frustration out of my system.  Thank you for listening from one of your Daily Strength friends Diane Baillie

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OnMyOwn2010
OnMyOwn2010

Oh, honey....I can understand how you feel...my Snake had similar problems the last few months, but we had been together 27 years, so he knew of course that it wasn\'t about the sex...but it still frustrated him...Does Dave have any health issues that might be contributing to the problem? Diabetes can impair blood flow, and there are some meds that can interfere as well, I know this because both of those were largely responsible for Snake\'s inability to maintain. I don\'t know what kind of work Dave does, but stress & worry can certainly hinder things, too, so if his job causes him to have a lot of stress that may well be one of the contributing factors. There are just so many things.....
The only advice I have is to just continue to encourage him and reassure him that you love and care about him first and foremost...anything else is just \"icing on the cake\" as my Gran used to say...I wish I had a magic potion to send you, but I don\'t, so I will just send you a hug and say again...I understand...
your friend ~E~
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Diane...I agree with E it could have something to do with his health..my Buddy had diabetes and I would say the last year or more of his life that sex was on the back burner. But as E puts it compainship was more important to me then and just having him around to hold me and hug me was enough. But your relationship is new so I completely understand and he is rather young for that unless he is having health or emotional issues..last night he might have just be very frustrated over and over and should have just stopped instead of letting him self down over and over. Maybe it will pass...Hugs Ellen