Coping without acting out

I'm sad. I miss my grown children. My baby just enlisted and left for the Army. I'm proud of both my children and the choices they have made in life, but now I have to deal with me...all of us alone. It's very confusing and frightening. Flash backs are bringing panick and the best I can do on my own is to lay down and rest and pray for God's grace to keep us from acting out. But sometimes when I lay down the physical memories torment me. I feel so weak and heavy hearted. :( We are all so overwhelmed with sorrow! Mary, Katherine and Nancy are taking it pretty hard today, and the children are scared!