Contacted ES
Just sent a note to ES. My DH has skin cancer. Although skin cancer can be minor it can also be deadly. I thought he should know. I said "your Dad has cancer." He wrote back "skin cancer?" He said "I wish him well." That was it. I am so angry and upset right now. Wish I never tried to contact him. Guess I am still learning to stay away and realize that our ES just doesn't care and I have to learn to live without him and the GC. They are the past and must be forgotten. I just can't stop crying. (DH appt w/surgeon is on Wed.)
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Don\'t be too quick to be mad at his response. When we learned my DH has cancer, I wrote on FB. A friend of my good son messaged ES to tell him and he didn\'t answer. Then he messaged \"I am processing it\". Never heard a word from him. And DH went into surgery for broken femur and the start of radiation.
Then 2 weeks ago DH had surgery to take out the kidney that held the cancer source. I texted ES to say dad was going in for surgery and wish he could be there but would he think positive thoughts and keep dad in his prayers. He wrote back asking if he could come down to the hospital and he sat with me and other son all afternoon into evening.
Then next day brought his wife and daughter. We had never met GD. He was telling her how we were his parents and her grandparents. He called and/or texted every day that week. Now we have been home from the hospital for a week and have not heard from him at all. Found out he put back on his FB page his wife\'s step mom as his own \"mother\". So hurtful.
Don\'t expect anything from ES. Keep your eyes focused on you and DH. Maybe your ES also needs to \"process it\".
Guess I was reacting to initial hurt. So glad your ES was with you for a while. No, I don\'t expect anything from him and I have calmed down. I just can\'t get over the lack of feelings by our EC. Never would I have thought to treat my parents in such a horrendous way and yet in this generation it seems so prevelant. If he contacts us great but if he doesn\'t, I wasn\'t expecting it anyway. Thanks for your support and your reply.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and DH as with Norske and her DH...life is tooooo short for all of us to continue to let \"these kids\" interfere with living anymore. Sheri