my sister and her husband have been in the process of divorcing. My sister knew of my special connection with her soon to be ex husband and urged me to keep in touch with him. Very big hearted of her. I have kept in touch with him and we share simple texts of photos and inspirational words back and forth. Last time I was at my parents' house they told me that he is being very very hurtful to my sister. I didn't know. I feel conflicted now that I am in touch with him. I love him a lot but my loyalties are with my sister. It's hard to push him out of my life. I have a very small group of friends I keep in touch with on a regular daily basis and it hurts to just say good bye.