conflicted

my sister and her husband have been in the process of divorcing. My sister knew of my special connection with her soon to be ex husband and urged me to keep in touch with him. Very big hearted of her. I have kept in touch with him and we share simple texts of photos and inspirational words back and forth. Last time I was at my parents' house they told me that he is being very very hurtful to my sister. I didn't know. I feel conflicted now that I am in touch with him. I love him a lot but my loyalties are with my sister. It's hard to push him out of my life. I have a very small group of friends I keep in touch with on a regular daily basis and it hurts to just say good bye.

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beckyp
beckyp

I think if your sister is okay with you staying in touch with him then go for it.
malibumark
malibumark

thanks becky.
arfie
arfie

Another vote for trusting your sister's encouragement for keeping in touch. I've yet to see a divorce happen without hurtful words and it is possible to stay friendly and respectful to everybody involved without taking sides.
malibumark
malibumark

thanks arfie.
Seamus
Seamus

True.... Its sort of like a child where the parents are divorcing. Or a friend of a couple. You don't hate one to stick with the other.
You stay, Neutral. And care about them both.