Christmas is not the time for Mum to voice Opinions

I have worked so hard to get myself to a place where I can function without tears or thinking about him all the time. I have a new job where nobody knows what I've been through and I have started to do the things I used to do before he was in my life and while he was in it like walking the dog. My mum though thinks it is okay to criticise everything that he and I did together gold class movies ( he had finance issues) eating out. I have said to her that how he left me in silence was wrong and I have worked hard to get to where I am now don't bring me down. Occassionally I bring up a place we went or a memory and she calls him idiot or worse. I feel like I can't have memories or talk about things because I have to see it her way. She has even said I look 9 months pregnant because I lost a few kilos and put a bit back on. I can't win I love her but this hurts.

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kenjb47
kenjb47

I am sorry you are still struggling Larayne, maybe your mom thinks she is helping by criticizing him? Sometimes people don\'t understand how emotionally scared we are and that talking bad about the X doesn\'t really help. We also may be extra sensitive to something that might not normally bother us. So have a talk with your mom and explain it to her, she will either respect it or not. Good luck Larayne and I hope you feel better soon!
larayne78
larayne78

I have tried to tell her to stop and that it doesn\'t help she just says its her opinion. I tell her to keep it to herself. Not really sure what else I can do except try again...thank you for the advise and I hope you are doing well.