Christmas Gifts

Hello wonderful peops. I had an incredibly interesting meeting yesterday with the psychic who had offered to share Andy's messages with me. I will say that I start from a place of lifelong skepticism, and so my level of 'convincibility' is pretty low. Even so, I totally enjoyed her kind heartfelt belief that she was able to channel Andy's spirit and offer me his thoughts and wishes and love and gratitude. How could I not? How could I push any of that away? I would be pushing away and rejecting love from Andy which would be obviously insane.
So I just let it flow, and accepted the aspects which to me are a bit flakey as a sweet energy of love in the universe and did marvel at the bits of intelligence that she seemed to have on who he was and what he would bring to such a channelling. 
Generally the messages were all good, very loving, happy, and positive. For example: Andy 'says' it is amazing where he is, and that he is in our hearts all the time but that he has also been hiking a lot... went to the Himalayas. LOL!
He also 'said' that he really appreciated that I framed something of his, that he thinks it is beautiful. Well... last week I framed a drawing and collage he did about 10 years ago, along with a photo from the hot air balloon ride that he and Heidi did in May. I would love to believe that the things we are doing to honor our loved ones who've passed, truly do still make them so happy!
He also 'said' that it's all about the experience, not 'stuff', not how many years you live... it's all about how much love and connection you build. He 'said' he was glad that he had lived fearlessly. He 'said' he could see a white light around me, and that no one needed to tell us how directly connected we would always be. 
I think that Melissa was very compassionate and very sensitive. I really appreciated her giving me this time. A true gift at a sad and challenging stretch.
I am thinking what I will do is transcribe the whole conversation... it's about 30 minutes long (QUicktime Audio file) but 26 megabytes so too much to attach, right? I could put it on Youtube if I knew how to do that... and can you make those things private? Any advice would be nice. Once I figure it out, I am glad to share the whole thing. It's definitely coming your way.
Merry Christmas, my friends. If you are having a hard day, and really feel terribly alone, in agony of loss over someone you loved with all your heart, I offer you this: your love is a beautiful thing. I am so sorry you and I have had to know such pain. I don't know when you will feel 'better' or if you ever will. I hope you will find ways, as I hope I will, to make a good life and that the terrible pain will be something which we live through and around.
Last night at church I saw a little boy reading the GIft of the Magi, his part, and then returning to the pew and being hugged and kissed by his parents, and I had to struggle to not sob openly. Each child is so precious... and we do not know what the future holds for each. How lovely to feel the sweet innocence of THAT moment, to remember how we have those times in our hearts and minds to keep forever, like treasures in a box.
I think of the void left by Andy's death as a hole around which I and others he loved have gathered. We sing and laugh and weep and feast and say his name. It doesn't fill the void, it honors him. Just following my heart on this journey. And grateful for all the goodness and compassion I have found along the way. 
Love, Sarah
 
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http://www.uuworld.org/spirit/articles/174504.shtml
A great article about how compassion means sharing, not trying to cheer someone up. I tried to paste the whole thing in here but something embedded in the format (EVEN when I tried to completely work it through a doc with plain text, etc... arg!) kept indenting it and making it cut off. So IF you have time and IF you are so inclined, I'd love to know what you think of it. Boy, this paragraph better not be indented or I will have to tell Andy to go back to the Himalayas!!! (JK, Bun-Bun!)

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KandL
KandL

Sarah, I think your idea regarding the information Melissa had for you is a good one. Why would you not keep an open mind and potentially miss something that Andy has to tell you? I think you must follow your instincts and your heart and I hope what Melissa shared with you is a blessing. Love to you and handsome Andy, Linda
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deleted_user
deleted_user

Your story held no surprises for me, as you know, since I have experineced many similar ones and feel that as long as the person who is telling you this is legit, sincere, loving, and not charging money....you\'re on to something that is okay....we have to be very careful as we know Satan is an excellent deceiver, but from what you are saying, this doesn\'t act like his work. I\'m very happy for you and I think you\'ve found a place to put your Andy where you can imagine him being. And yes, remember me telling you my mother told us that she can move about in the blink of an eye and be anywhere she wants...in the Heavens or the earth....so why not hiking in the Himilayas....sure sounds like something he would choose to do! I\'m happy for you. Bless you, you got a great Christmas gift.

Becky
inmemoryofhattie
inmemoryofhattie

Dear Sarah,

Thank you for sharing this...I have been thinking about your meeting on and off throughout the week....sounds like it turned out ok, that\'s a good thing...

sending a lot of love your way....
biowoman
biowoman

Very interesting...had you told her about framing those pics? Something clipped your article...I would like to read, will you repost it? Thanks friend...Karen
heartsandhands
heartsandhands

No I had not mentioned ANYTHING about Andy to her... she had never met him but seemed to sense what an emotional and minimalist person he was... and I showed her the framed artwork in another room afterwards. ?:o)
deleted_user
deleted_user

What\'s it all about, Alfie? I use to go around humming that song. And I\'m still wondering. Guess all we can do, is keep an open mind and try to flow, with the rest of the universe. I do personally think, we stay connected, to the loved ones, in our life, forever. Peace to you. Peace to all of us, who struggle to make sense of our losses and how to go forward. Hugs. Gaye
deleted_user
deleted_user

I\'m so glad you went. I go to a spiritual advisor that also gives me messages from my daughter. Her messages are a repeat of what I believe my daughter has already told me that week. And she also says it is all about the love. I\'m so glad you went and hope you are encouraged and will go again.
Missinglisa
Missinglisa

I too am skeptical but I have seen a psychic. it was early on - he said that she had a hard time passing over. I asked why she had to die and was told that she was in more pain than anyone knew (I know she was suffering). I asked if my granddaughter was going to be okay. He said that Lisa said that her husband would have more difficulty and so far, he has proved to be correct. He described my mother as the one who was helping her and he spookily described my deceased mother-in-law to a T. He had difficulty putting it in to words - said she was not rich but seemed to act a bit aristocratic - he was dead on. I am still not totally convinced but who knows. There are a lot of things in this universe that don\'t seem feasible but who knows.
I hope all went well to-day.\'
Love and hugs,
Marlene - Lisa\'s Mum
zzztop
zzztop

sounds good to me i never thought of going to a palm reader or ,spiirtual reader. i don,t have much faith in that stuff. but if it works for you that is great. any thing to make us feel closer to our angels,. hHEAVEN IS A BEAUTIFUL PLACE MY DAUGHTER 8 DAYS BEFOR SHE PASSED CAME TO ME IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT SHE HAD LUPUS AND COULD NOT WALK ANY LONGER BUT SHE APPEARED TO ME SMILING AND STANDING AND WAVED GOODBY TO ME. AND SAID I LOVE YOU MOM. I COULD TELL SHE HAD ALREADY LEFT HER BODY (SHE WAS ON LIFE SUPPORT) HER SOUL HAD LEFT HER BODY ALL REady she looked to happy radiant i knew she had saw all her loved ones and wanted me to know she was very happy and would be waiting for me when it was my time. and i was awake. she came back to me to say good by, and a week later she died. hugs mary ann my heart still breaks when i talk about that.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Very happy that your time spent w ith your neighbor was soothing to you.

I told you about my session with a psychic, Jim said something similar to what your Andy said, he \'said\', \"It\'s really cool here Mom, you can go wherever you want!\"
CorysMom
CorysMom

Fascinating. I wish I knew of a good medium. I would love to visit. Happy for your encounter!
TamzinsMum
TamzinsMum

I loved reading about your session with the psychic. I have been to a few since Tamzin died but still want to find a really good one. One told me Tamzin was around Tibet. That was shortly after he had died. I dont understand about spirit & the physical world & how that can work....but of course I would really like to go to Tibet just to feel the spirituality of the place & to Tamzin\'s presence... mind you that was said to me about 10 years ago. Also I was going to say Tam was like Andy a minimalist too, absolutely.... and emotional... (open, warm, friendly, sociable, kind etc). I hope you have good dreams of Andy. And that they feel like visits xxx
rcoco
rcoco

If ones core belief is that we are all connected on a spiritual level, then I believe that information from the subtle dimension can be channeled into our dense physical reality. It sounds like a warm and loving exchange, and that your neighbor had only the purest intention. Doubt is the destroyer of belief. If you left with love and light in your heart, then it sounds like your precious son blessed you with his thoughts from across the cosmos. Awesome! Love, Rebecca
Livingjuicy
Livingjuicy

If there can be any kind of gentle healing moments offered then I always feel that these kinds of visits are so welcome. It feels as if it was that way for you. The mention of the framed item was only for you and from what I understand from the medium that I saw is that they try to tap into really specific info to let us know who they are channeling in. It feels as if it was a gift to you and I\'m sure you\'ll be unpacking the narrative piece by piece and perhaps some of it will really make sense in the days to come? One can only hope! Peace to you this day dear Sarah and thank you so much for sharing your experience. Lots of love to you. Joanie
DunneL
DunneL

Dear Sarah, I also don\'t know what to say or think about all this. I\'m not a believer in any conventional way either. Sometimes, when I\'m out walking and thinking about Jon, I see a crow fly over (his favorite bird) or feel a sudden gush of wind and I imagine that he\'s up there somewhere sending me a hello. Maybe sitting with his new pals looking down on their moms writing to each other and soothing each other. Its a nice thought. Love to you as you experience this first christmas without Andy being physically there. At the very least, we hold them in our hearts.