Call me three times...
so my brother has done it again. he calls me today asking if I am planning to go anywhere tonight cause he needs to drop by to have some bills paid, Hw says he will be coming around 7:30 to 8 pm. I say I'll be here and ok.
then he calls around 4 pm and asks the same exact thing telling me he is going to stop by my sisters first to do something with her washing machine, I am not sure what it is but he has been going over there to do his laundry even tho he is not supposed to and my sister does not want him to but she is too afraid of him to say no or not let him i9n when he comes over. so again I'm fine and say I'll be here, ok.
Then he calls a few minutes ago around 7pm and says he is at our sisters and asks if I was going anywhere. At this point I'm getting kinda irritated and on the edge of angry and I guess ti was sounding in my voice when say No. I tell him I'll be here. and he says since I'm not waiting on him and not going anywhere he is going to drop by his friends house for a while before coming over and if that was ok, I just sigh. And he he was bothering me so much and I say yes. and after a pause I say I have no idea what you are going to do ;you have called me three times now asking the exact same thing and I've given the same answer, You only need to call once to see if I'm here and if I am then come over.
He says he is sorry and then hangs up.
I still don't know if he is coming or not I'm just anxious about him dropping in at any given freakin' time he wants.
Am I being irrational? Is what he is doing normal or is he trying to control me somehow for his own benefit or just so inconsiderate of others that he doesn't realize what he is doing? I think the later but there may be a little of the former there subconsciously.
then he calls around 4 pm and asks the same exact thing telling me he is going to stop by my sisters first to do something with her washing machine, I am not sure what it is but he has been going over there to do his laundry even tho he is not supposed to and my sister does not want him to but she is too afraid of him to say no or not let him i9n when he comes over. so again I'm fine and say I'll be here, ok.
Then he calls a few minutes ago around 7pm and says he is at our sisters and asks if I was going anywhere. At this point I'm getting kinda irritated and on the edge of angry and I guess ti was sounding in my voice when say No. I tell him I'll be here. and he says since I'm not waiting on him and not going anywhere he is going to drop by his friends house for a while before coming over and if that was ok, I just sigh. And he he was bothering me so much and I say yes. and after a pause I say I have no idea what you are going to do ;you have called me three times now asking the exact same thing and I've given the same answer, You only need to call once to see if I'm here and if I am then come over.
He says he is sorry and then hangs up.
I still don't know if he is coming or not I'm just anxious about him dropping in at any given freakin' time he wants.
Am I being irrational? Is what he is doing normal or is he trying to control me somehow for his own benefit or just so inconsiderate of others that he doesn't realize what he is doing? I think the later but there may be a little of the former there subconsciously.
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does your brother have a job? I made the huge mistake of letting my brother walk all over me and take until the well ran dry. don\'t make the same mistake I did. tell him NO . period . next time tell him you\'re going out and have no idea when you\'ll be back . protect yourself from that loser