Becoming Just Friends?

I'm a little bit worried.  We seem to be unable to move past the ring thing.  He doesn't want to talk about it, and I'm tired of pushing it.  He thinks all is well, and if that's how he want's to live his life then fine.  I'm not going to ruin his delusion.
Since it happened we have ceased to be in a real relationship.  We haven't had sex since.  We don't cuddle.  Both of us have stopped saying 'I love you' basically all together.  We horse around, joking with each other, fake wrestling.  We don't kiss, we don't hold hands in public, we don't share food at restaraunts.  It feels like I'm just living with a friend.
At bed time he gets upset if I don't go to sleep with him.  But it's not for anything romantic other then he feels lonely.  We don't even really snuggle in bed anymore.  Occasionally he will toss his arm over me or vice versa, but now we sleep back to back. 
He has started to clean and what not.  Something I have been hounding him about.  But it's only HIS things.  He cleans like we were room mates and it's his job to keep his things in order and mine to keep the kids and my stuff in order.
I don't want to be friends.  I want to be lovers.  I want to be happy again.  I want him to open his eyes and see what he had and what hes losing.  I mean, if it does end, I'm thrilled we can be amiable.  We do have a daughter together.  But I'm not truly ready to call it quits.
I do love him.  I've been thinking alot.  Trying to discern if it's still romantic love or just friendship love.  I can't tell.
I just don't know where to go from here.