Bad news again !
You would think I'd be used to things not going my way when I see my RE. I still always end up hoping to get good news.
We'll today was still a shock. Guest what, my mc still isn't over or at least there's still some left over material. Everyone couldn't believe it. After all I did get a very intense D&C over a month ago and she put in an IUD to make sure everything would be ok. I know there's nothing more we could have done. My body just sucks big time.
I need surgery now and the bad part is that with summer being here, I probably won't be able to get it before September. Once I get it, I'll get a new IUD put in, so no TTC before November.
I just feel like I keep living the same situation all over. I new right away when I saw the screen that it wasn't good. She talk again about me getting a surrogate. My results from the mc came back and the scarring is what caused it. She says DH and I make great embries and she knows I'd have a baby right away if I had someone to carry the baby for me. I wish I had someone that could do it, but I don't and you can't find a stranger in Québec to do it for you so I guest I'm stuck. I figure I'll try to look into it some more but I haven't found a way in the past so I don't see how I'll be able to now.
The results have hit me real hard. I'm at a loss right now. I don't know how I can keep on going and doing the same things just to end up in the same place. I'm so not ready to give up on our dream but at the same time, I'm really not sure it will ever be possible.
We'll today was still a shock. Guest what, my mc still isn't over or at least there's still some left over material. Everyone couldn't believe it. After all I did get a very intense D&C over a month ago and she put in an IUD to make sure everything would be ok. I know there's nothing more we could have done. My body just sucks big time.
I need surgery now and the bad part is that with summer being here, I probably won't be able to get it before September. Once I get it, I'll get a new IUD put in, so no TTC before November.
I just feel like I keep living the same situation all over. I new right away when I saw the screen that it wasn't good. She talk again about me getting a surrogate. My results from the mc came back and the scarring is what caused it. She says DH and I make great embries and she knows I'd have a baby right away if I had someone to carry the baby for me. I wish I had someone that could do it, but I don't and you can't find a stranger in Québec to do it for you so I guest I'm stuck. I figure I'll try to look into it some more but I haven't found a way in the past so I don't see how I'll be able to now.
The results have hit me real hard. I'm at a loss right now. I don't know how I can keep on going and doing the same things just to end up in the same place. I'm so not ready to give up on our dream but at the same time, I'm really not sure it will ever be possible.
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Oh, I am so sorry... I\'m sorry you are going through this and I don\'t understand why IF has to be so hard. Nothing with it can ever be cut and dry. So sorry.
Oh Roxy, I\'m so so sorry to hear this! After all you\'ve been through, to hear this.....I just cannot imagine. I cannot believe your m/c still isn\'t over....I am at a loss of words.....I\'m just so very very deeply sorry. What is the surgery you need, another d&c? Sending huge hugs!
I\'m so so sorry Roxy..... IF sucks big time. I wish I could give you a big hug!
Oh I am sooo sorry Roxy, wish I could give you a big hug! I can\'t believe there was still something left! I am so sorry you have to keep going through this, it sucks!
I am so sorry about all of this. I really wish there was a way to make it easier or something to say. But I know there is now. Thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs from afar. Love you XOXO
I am terribly sorry to hear about all of this. Sending thoughts and prayers that maybe something will work out with a surrogate.....HUGS.
No not an other D&C, it can\'t be that easy. It\'s going to have to be a lap to get the tissue that is just stuck there. I get placenta acreta, that find of means that the placenta does roots into your uterus. It would make a pregnancy high risk but also means it complicates a mc in my case.
I\'ve been on Google and I sent out a lot of information request to surrogate clinics in the rest of Canada. I\'m hoping that the legal issues we have here doesn\'t make it impossible for me to work with one of them.
I\'m not sure if I\'m willing to stop trying on my own at this point but I feel better at least trying to get a plan B going.
So very sorry for the additional delay, Roxy. But...this will give your body a little more time to heal and get everything fully \"cleaned out\" so you can hopefully have a very healthy, full term pregnancy (starting in November/Decemer). Sending big hugs your way!
I\'m so very sorry. You have been through hell and back. It\'s not fair. I am really proud of you for your perseverance though. I know that one day you will have another child. What about getting a surrogate in the US? Can you do that?
I don\'t know. It might be possible but Qubec would considere it as an international adoption on top of surrogacy. It would be much more expensive if it is possible. I\'d have to see if we can make it work and see if DH is up for the idea.
I\'m so sorry roxy. You really don\'t have a friend or relative that would be willing to do that for you? I so hope you\'re able to find something. And what crappy news. Please pamper yourself. So much love and hugs being sent your way!!
I\'m sorry that you\'ve had to encounter so many obstacles and misfortunes. Waiting is the hardest part and November seems so far away, I know. But it\'s good to give your body time to heal because ultimately you do want a healthy body with a healthy baby.
Waiting...ugh.. story of my life! Just know I\'m here for you if you need anything.
My sister and sister-in-law don\'t have kids yet and aren\'t the type. I really don\'t see any of my friends being willing to do it either. Some have had complicated births or hated being pregnant.
I also just got a reply already from one of the agencies, I\'d be looking at cost around 75 to 100k total. I\'m almost certain DH won\'t even want to considere it just based on cost.
I am so sorry roxy. So sad you have to wait for the surgery. I hope your research into plan b goes well. In some us states you get you and your husband\'s names on the birth certificate. I wonder how Quebec would even know you didn\'t just physically give birth in the us. I think growing generations has a free consult and might be able to address some of your questions even if you take a different route. Big hug!
hun I am so sorry I hope things go quickly for you and you don\'t have to wait too long for surgery... my thoughts are with you