as my world turns
Ok so now it is a waiting game. His lawyer sends letter. My lawyer sends one back. yada yada yada. His no doubt doesnt have all the "correct" details since stbx doesn't know how to share the truth. Very selfish and self-centered. i am doing so much better thanks to personal advice from a dear friend on here. I am going to use some self-improving on me to finally come to grips with things I realize now are NOT my guilt to bear. I can't help the fact he has no contact with any of his children. Ours or his. but that is his problem. I have them all. Plus 11 grandkids! They all love me and have from the start. They tell me if it wasnt for me they or their kids would not have the experience of having grandparents who care. You see I pushed him to keep contact up with his kids and grandkids. Shame but I had to do it. They are awesome girls (the 5 daughters) and I have found out he did a lot of the same things to them emotionally he did to our sons. What a prick!!! Be gone devil cause YOU are not welcome in our lives anymore!!
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THAT\'S the spirit, my friend! Righteous indignation is fuel for grace under fire. Keep up the good work!
ok it has been FOREVER since I have been on here. Things are pretty much the same. stbx still not as forthcoming in the info needed. 2 months ago I would of gladly consented to the dissolution. Just to be free of all his crap. Then he went back to no money again. So I called lawyer and said \"throw out those papers and sue his ass for whatever you can get.\" But my lawyer did that and I last talked to him 3 weeks ago and he was \"supposed\" to file support papers that day. Don\'t know if he did or not. I leave messages and send mail to him to forward (along with quick letter to lawyer) but I have as yet heard nothing. I refuse to contact the ass sorry ex for anything. He knows what he is doing to me. His little manipulations won\'t deter me. His family say he is happy-go-lucky like not a care in the world. Of course, cause I am still paying my bills,HIS bills and OUR bills. But unfortunately, almost out of reserve money. Son has helped as much as he can since he lives at home yet. Hate being a burden on him. He has his own bills. But bless him for helping. I have a feeling stbx (really?) is going to try and hide some income so he won\' have to pay but I know his tricks and his bosses. So does my lawyer. But damn this is taking forever!. And on top of all this (another reason not on here) is I had to have biopsy for cancer check. Had to wait 2 weeks for results as doc was on vaca. Thank you for the added stress. I went in before that for any and all std tests (so glad a wife of 28 yrs had to do that.) to make sure nothing else there. Lo and behold another std but at least small bacterial kind that could be treated with meds. Then I bled and cramped so that led to biopsy. Thank you Lord that it was negative. But there is my life for the last 4 months. Not ignoring you all but trying to cope.